my boyfriend says he wants to marry me, but suppose he proposes, then Im engaged right? but is that serious too, or is it only getting married that is the real thing? I mean, are there guys who use an engagement to make their gf happy and then not mean it when it comes to marrying?
2007-06-14 01:08:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well engagement is serious. It means you are commited to marrying the someone who gave you the ring. Also, you could take a long engagement. Like you know you love that person and want to be with them, but your not quite ready any time soon for the whole marriage thing. You could take a few years. I mean it takes a bout a year to plan a wedding anyways!
2007-06-14 01:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends entirely on the couple I believe. My fiance are approaching this as something very serious. It wasn't a spur of the moment decision, we talked about it for a long time before he ever popped the question. Getting engaged is like making a verbal commitment to each other and publicly declaring the seriousness of our relationship. We waited nearly 4 years to become engaged and are having a long (2 year) engagement.
I wouldn't take it lightly. Stick around this forum long enough and you'll see how common engagement break-ups can be. Its a sad reality, but people do change. So it's really what YOU make it. Think long and hard before you accept if you're having second thoughts. Think about where you are in your life right now. In school? Have a job? Where do you want to go in life? College? And then he needs to consider the same things. How long have you known each other? It takes awhile to REALLY know someone. And then people change drastically in college and their early 20's.
That's all the advice I have to offer. So it reality depends on you two as a couple. You don't want to have your heart broken, then again sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith. ("It's better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all.")
2007-06-14 01:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It annouces that the couple intend to marry. It is a promise to marry. How serious the couple takes the promise depends on them.
I proposed once. And I married her. I took the proposal/engagement seriously. But others might not.
A lot can happen between the proposal and the marriage though.
2007-06-14 01:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Stanley W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a serious testing period before marriage for people who love each other...its exclusive... and a time to learn what you can and cannot live with in the future.
If you have doubts now...don't get engaged. It sounds to me like you are insecure and probably too young. Engagements are for the mature couple who plan on marriage for all the right reasons.. It is not a game or for the faint of heart..
2007-06-14 01:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is but isn't. I say this because if you both are comfortable about being together forever...engagement is the step toward that. It's ok to say no, i mean it's better then being uncomfortable about you and your boyfriend's future. My friend's brother got engaged (well proposed) and about a month later they broke up becuase they didn't think it'd work out. If your not ready your boyfriend should understand and respect your wish. Mainly it's best to talk about it
2007-06-14 01:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty Assilem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The engagement is practice for marriage. If you can't be serious now ~ then you won't be serious when you get married. It's a big step ~ one that takes lots and lots of thought. Good luck
2007-06-14 01:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by FireBug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting engaged is serious.
It is best to have a long engagement though.
I was engaged for 2.5 years before we set the date for next year.
My mate at work, he sister has been engaged for 9 years. When I announced we set the date, the sister asked how long we had been engaged for, I advised, I late found out that she has taken okk her engagement ring from her fiance!
2007-06-16 05:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Rebz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a serious relationship and yeah some men do just ask and never plan on going through with it ...marriage is a serious thing and men dont like to be serious about anything unlesss us women put our foot don so to speak and they are nto going to go out and buy us a ring that cost a cople hundred dollars with the intention of never getting married they reather skip out and fuind someone new
2007-06-14 01:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him when he wants to get married - you'll soon find out how serious he is. For me a proposal is a one time thing but some people like to use it as a guarantee or something
2007-06-14 01:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me and my husband yes we have been married 20 years this year some said it wouldnt last only because wed only known each other 6 weeks but got married after we had lived together for 2 years i think you know when it is right it is a commitement
2007-06-17 09:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by lisagrndy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋