My mother has suddenly stopped speaking to me or responding to me, she is quite cruel to me now and I have asked her what I have done and she will not answer she just hangs up on me, she did not bother with me for my birthday and when she visited my sister recently she did not even make an effort to pop in to see me despite being down for 5 days, when I tried to arrange to see her whilst she was down she made excuses to not see me. I know I have done nothing wrong to her and that I have been a good daughter.
What can I do and how do I cope with her abandoning me
2007-06-14 00:33:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow...This sounds really painful. My heart goes out to you. It sounds like your mom has serious issues, ones you have no control over. If you've tried everythng and she still doesn't want to respond to you then there's nothing you can do. She's an adult. But you're an adult, too. You have to let her live her life and you have to be able to live yours without letting your mom control yours. Once you've made the effort to reconcile with her and she has rejected it, then let it go. Work on some hobbies, pray, take a walk-do something good for yourself and remind yourself that this is her problem-not yours! You are going to have a good life-with or without her.
Good luck!
2007-06-14 00:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mary L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't talk to you, then ask your sister if she can find out what's going on. Just because you don't think you did anything bad to her doesn't mean she thinks so. My mother-in-law gets upset over the stupidest stuff and it drives my wife nuts. For all you know, she found out about something that you did 10 years ago and now she's is pissed about it. If your sister can't find out anything, then try writing her a letter explaining how hurt you are about her actions. If that doesn't work then the only thing I could think of would be to just show up at her house or at your sister's house the next time she is visiting.
2007-06-14 00:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by wolfatrest2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously your mom thinks you have done something to her...maybe she heard something through someone else. It sounds like your mom is not the type that likes to discuss and solve problems but to ignore them and reject all attempts at airing and fixing them. In which case you either need to confront her and get her to spill the beans or live in misery wondering why your own mom is treating you like this....its not going to be easy by the sound of it but be strong.
if you discover you did do something(albeit accidently) then make a big effort to apologize and mend the rift....if you did nothing than give her time to come to terms with whatever is bothering her(it may not actually have anything to do with you, your just the fallguy so to speak). Dont cut her off completely in case she makes a move towards you....but give her some space. good luck
2007-06-14 00:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by coolred38 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know as if you can do anything cause you have already tried so hard as is. She obviously feels you know and are playing dumb about it-that is the reason she is treating you this way-unless you can figure out a way to convince her you actually don't know what you supposedly have done you may have to wait this out. My mother is 85 years old and she stopped calling or talking to me for no reason but she still talks to my sister and I have no clue what I did to her either. Be patient or maybe talk to your sister and see if she has a clue?
2007-06-14 00:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by perfectmom88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to live with it is my advice, time will heal.
I have a Father whose the same & when Mum died I worried about him it finished when he caused so much hassle it threatened my wifes fragile health, its taken time but I no longer seek the approval I always used to from him.....his own relations with his Dad were bad so he seems to have chosen to do the same.
As tough as it is be independant thats my advice to you.
2007-06-14 00:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my mum i wr the gud one and got kicked out the house, she wunt decorate my rm an id bin askin her 4 yrs, my brothers the spoilt naughty one an had his room decorateds an then mine when i moved out so he has 2 bedrooms nw an both bin decorated in last 4 months, we wr constantly arguin i dint dare go downstairs. i think you should leave ger to it if she wants to be like that cos thats what i decided to do and dont let her get to u as that mite b wot she wants
2007-06-14 05:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by lilhails 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously does not care any about you or she would have wanted to see you . I think you should let her be ,because she has made it very clear she does not want to see you . She will pay for it one day . good luck to you .
2007-06-14 00:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u think u havent done anything to hurt her, but u really did. u should talk to her about it. see wats going on. and try to fix the problem.
2007-06-14 00:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by meli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you do something wrong that you don't know. you can ask your sister if she knew something. it's imposibble that she does that if everything is all right. be still a good daughter
2007-06-14 00:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sylvia R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋