We get on brilliantly and speak to each other every day for the past 3 years. I feel comfortable with her and she brings out the best in me. However, I am concerned how other people would react. It just feels so right yet im apprehensive to tell her how i feel cos im responsible and dont want her to feel bad. can anyone advice me what to do? Should age be a n issue in relationships?
2007-06-14 00:05:43 · 30 answers · asked by Maverick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a big gap - need to know how old you/she are before commenting.
2007-06-14 00:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by third space 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is love. Age doesn't matter. It depends what country you are. In some countries, it is a definite "no-no", but in some, it doesn't really matter. But it really boils down between the both of you. If you feel that you are right for each other, then go for it. There are different people all over the world. Some will hate you for it, and some will be "cool" with it. It shouldn't matter what other people think, because they're most probably ignorant about it or can't seem to have an open-mind about it. Keep doing what you're doing. If you are thinkin of marriage and it is illegal there, then wait for the appropriate time to do so. Enjoy each other's company and go to places that you two are most comfortable so you won't feel as much as stress in comparison to if you were in a location where you feel people are more judgemental. Good luck to the two of you!
2016-05-20 00:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've asked this question three times in the last year (two in the last 24 hrs)..and stated the question basically the same. If you want a true answer (which apparently you don't) you need to say her age and yours. You obviously have guilt feelings or you wouldn't keep asking and you would be more specific. Sooo, my answer to you is...YES, you should forget about her! She's obviously way too young..especially since you call her 'girl'. You 'speak to each other every day'...is this on the phone or the Internet? Who's married? 23 yrs is too big a gap at any age. But the younger she is, the worse it is. She'll dump you in a heart beat once she's taken you for everything. 10 yrs should be max and that's providing you're both over 35-40. My guess is you're going through your midlife crisis and wanting a trophy on your arm. Wrrrrrrrrong!
Fogetta bout her!
2007-06-14 21:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 13 and she is 36 - definitely forget it.
If you are 23 and she is 46 - it could be ok on a temporary basis but don't expect it to last.
My advice forget it. You will find out the possible issues as you get older.
NB.
You may have the wrong idea - wishful thinking - the lady may be horrified if she knew your wishes and that may be end of your beautiful friendship.
Alternatively if you are mature enough, you could discuss it with her in a mature manner, and be open to yeh or neh.
2007-06-14 00:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jewel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you both feel the same way about each other then age shouldn't matter. others probably will have a problem with it though. they're bound to. but if you both like each other enough its worth it. age should only be an issue if one of you is under the legal age of consent. otherwise if that's not the case and you both care for each other alot try to make it work. I'm currently in an age gap relationship too, although its not as big a gap as your is. my parents have had reservations about us but i explained to them that although i understood their concerns i wasn't going to give up the guy over just that. if it's really bugging you try to tell her in a way that doesnt hurt her, but if its just a little doubt try to ignore it. i hope everything works out for you.
2007-06-14 01:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by willow 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
23 years is kinda a lot. I mean when you're 75 she'll only be 52. That's a big difference. I mean, sorry but you'll be close to death and she'll still have awhile to live. Do you really want to put her through that? What if you two had kids? But if you still want to go ahead with it see how both sides of your families react on the subject I guess.
2007-06-14 00:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by lydia033 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i was 33 and my partner was 47 when we met and we didn't care about what people thought...we were very happy and we stayed together for 11 years....but as the years went on, he tended to slow down a little bit and was not interested in going anywhere or doing anything, we parted recently because everything came to a stop on his behalf...not mine...i am now in my early 40's and sill like to go and do things but he said he was too old for all that....so do consider this if your gonna stay with this girl...if she's the one who's younger than you, think about what it may be like when your in your late 50's and she is still young....i am sorry that my relationship is over because we really did have some special times together but he does not want to do anything any more, and i do...i feel that i have wasted 11 years because everything had to evolve around him and what he wanted to do....so do think about this if your planning something long term...don't forget her life is important too and i don't think she would be too happy if she had to stay in because your too old to do the things she wants to do..a relationship is based on sharing....think about it for the long haul...if she is the one who's 23 years older, then it will be he same thing....don't be tied down with someone who is not going to do things with you any more because they are too old....it's just a waste of time....
2007-06-14 00:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO not at all age is nothing!u cant help the way u feel n u shouldnt hide it,u shouldnt care about other peoples reactions..if u love her thats all that matters.U need to sit down with this girl and tell her exactly how u feel dont waste any time,what have u got to loose? lifes short.x x
2007-06-14 00:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
2/3 yrs. Okay.
23yrs. Questionable.
Depends on wither or not it goes into the paedophile area of things.
23yrs is dead steep.
But hey. Your call.
If it feels right. Give it a shot at least.
2007-06-14 00:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ben 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No don't forget about her!
There is an age gap between me and my b/f.
Its only 6 years.
My family hated it because i was only just turning 16 at the time.
But now my mum and most of the family love him.
Stick at it hope i have helped
2007-06-14 00:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does she think the same way? If so and she is over 18 - go for it. Other people do not live your life - you have to. But there is a good chance that she does not think of you like that at all.
2007-06-14 01:04:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋