I am 25 years old. I have about two years that i have a serious relationship with a boy 27 years old,we love each other and everything about love is going wonderful,but there is a problem he is jealous, fanatic, and i have accepted this with very dificulty but i am with him because i love him.he desnt live in my city but we meet each other very often, 4 times a week .Our problem is that we have misunderstanding about several things that aren t very importante about love but in my behaivour,or for some things that for me arent as importante as he thinks , for this sometimes he thinks that i don t respect him, but it s not true i dont make those things with cognizance to hurt bothe of us, i meet him after the work and maybe from the tired ,,,,,!!?? once in 15 days we querrel very much.
What can i do to solve those situations ?
I don t want to miss this love, we have make plans for a beautiful family ?please help me ,,,,,,,,!
2007-06-14 00:02:36 · 5 answers · asked by aila 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All you can do is talk with him about what he is feeling, and why he is feeling that way. Then ask him to allow you to do the same. If you can not communicate without arguing, there is not much hope for the relationship.
2007-06-14 00:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him those things, but do it in a quiet, steady voice. Keep in mind too that men who are jealous are usually insecure for a reason, and if he is constantly on you about your behavior, perhaps you should look for someone else. I understand that you "love him" but ask yourself a few things...do you love him or the idea of him? Are you with him so you won't be lonely? If you're like I used to be, you hate to be alone and so you put up with a bunch of crap just to have some companionship. And plans for a beautiful family are great, but if you go ahead with all your misgivings and have a family you could very well wind up taking care of kids on your own because its been my experience that jealous guys are jealous because they're cheaters.
2007-06-14 07:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Friendship or relationship starts only after understanding each other's feelings, thoughts and the way they look at different aspects of life.
Your friendship/relationship must also have these basic tools to have it for life long. But as you mentioned, somewhere something out of above elements is missing or has got disturbed. Please go in depth and find out the exact reason to sort out the problem. If at all it doesn't work then you should think again to continue this relationship.
2007-06-14 07:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anil G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, your living in a dream world, take those rose coloured glasses off and look at reality for a second. Your boyfriend has a jealousy condition, it cannot be cured! it's progressive! it will end up in you coming into harms way! So please be careful in your dealings with this man! Even if you tried to end the relationship now, I'd bet that he wouldn't let you go. Right? So seek counselling! I know it sounds dramatic but I've seen it unfold before, you beware! So act on my advice and be safe. And please don't say you were not warned! Have a good day.
2007-06-14 07:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confrontation...
2007-06-14 07:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by nErchEL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋