i think i am ugly always have done and yet people say i am?

Question

goodlooking but i have always thought i was ugly, when i look in the mirror i relise i am not but then i just think i am most of the time why is this

Answer 1

Low self esteem - either that or the people are just being kind to you!.

Answer 2

It's probably partly self conscious insecurity but also partly the way people physically view themselves in a mirror.

Other people will see you from the outside; chatting, smiling, being witty, being thoughtful, being animated. In short, they see the whole you.
When you look in a mirror, the sum total of what you see is an image. You don't (I assume, maybe you do, I don't know) chat and flirt with yourself in a mirror, so all you get is the deadpan look of someone being critical. And let's face it, very few people look at themselves in the mirror or a photo just to appreciate their own beauty.
Can't say I've ever woken up in the morning, looked in the mirror and gone 'phwoar'.
Not gonna happen. ;)

Trust other people, and try and take a step back and see what they see - I stopped being quite so self-conscious when I accidentally caught sight of a fairly pretty girl walking past me on the other side of the street, then realised it was my reflection in a polished shop window.

You're you - get your mates to take videos or pictures when you're unaware of it just to prove to you that you're not ugly, and you'll start to see yourself in a much more favourable light.

If all else fails, get yourself a copy of 'Heat', or any catty girls' magazine and it'll have piccies of gorgeous celebrities (male and female) looking as spotty, tired and manky as the rest of us - always cheers me up! ;)

Answer 3

you probably have low self-esteem, or someone has knocked your confidence down.

As they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

To be honest you could be the most gorgeous person in the world, but if your heart is ugly then you will be lonely and sad and have no friends. Better to be a normal person and have a heart of gold. Anyone superficial enough to judge you based on looks alone is not worth knowing.

Answer 4

i think most people are insecure about something or in other to do with their bodies!!! there isnt much you can do about this its human nature!!!
however there are some exercises you can do to help build up your confidence and self esteem. instead of thinking about how ugly you think you are (if that make sense) think about your good qualities and features tell yourself that you are beautiful everyday, if you tell yourself this enough you will eventualy alter your perception of yourself. try different things new makeup (if your female), hairstyle etc and i know this will sound really stupid but when you look in the mirror SMILE and LAUGH if you can see yourself as happy on the outside you may feel better in the inside.
Remember this every1 is beautiful in their own unique and individual way!!!

Answer 5

Your feelings are coming from within.

You look at yourself and dont like what you see, what we see reflected in a mirror on our faces is our inner selves. Because you can see this person superficially as others can but you are also privvy to whats inside, the thoughts, emotions, attitudes, etc.

You need to work on yourself, where do these negative feelings come from.

Are you a nice, kind, patient person, or are you nasty and negative.
Are you shy, introverted and withdrawn or are you arrogant, self centered and greedy.

Whatever you are, you are not happy this way. You can change if you want to and you will be able to love yourself.

When I meet someone I like to see how they behave in front of a mirror, it tells me alot.

Answer 6

You are probably exceptionally ugly if thats what you think! If anyone tells you different then they are just trying to make you feel better. They are not true freinds! A true freind would tell you the truth. That is, 'you are hideous and in desperate need of plastic surgery'.

Hope this helps. Fingers crossed for you!!!

Answer 7

Depends how you define ugly and good looking. I would consider myself to be average but I pick parts of me that I know are well above average and focus on them.

We can't all change how we look but we can try to make the best of ourselves. Have confidence in yourself and do what I do pick out your best features and don;t consume your thoughts with your worse features.
Ugly to one person is beautiful to the next. Believe in yourself.Work on your confidence from within.

Answer 8

I am sure that you are a very attractive,special,wonderful person.I am sure that most people are paranoid about there looks,only the shallow ones are not.You need to be more positive about your self.I know that allot of people comment me and say to me behind my back things like"paki pants" "rag head" "big nose" and all other sort of things about me.I know I'm not the best looking man on the streets,I also know that I'm not the worst of them neither.I know how to treat people and respect them to.My outlook on life is yo treat how i would like to be treated.Did you know that in the Muslim world the woman are second to men and are behind that of the dog,not in my life they ain't and I'm Muslim!!!!!



YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL GOD BLESS YOU

Answer 9

Thinking that you're ugly, useless, untalented and various other words starting with U is an excuse not to achieve. If other people think you're good-looking, you're going to have to think about what you're going to do about it. Give the world a chance - we'll meet you half way.

Answer 10

I think Guy U is right, but expressed it in a bad way, if you regain self confidence you will feel better and other people will notice that, sparking a new found mutual respect

Answer 11

ok...just accept yourself as average...is that so hard to do?...you are not exceptionally handsome and you are not a freak of nature...you are average...average looking women will be attracted to...other average men will have to compete with you...and basically, average people will continue to tell you that youre good looking because the average person is polite that way...this isnt such a bad way to be...youre an average person so forget about it being average...