Theres this girl who used to be my friend. I moved away from our city then 4 years later we moved back. At first, she was really nice to me, then later she became really mean. She always ignored me and picked on me. Im afraid of her kinda, and dont have the guts to stand up to her. Sometimes though, when Im just with her at a sleepover or something she is so nice, then she gets with our big group of girls and she becomes really mean. I had a sleepover a few nights ago and invited one of my other really close friends and the mean girl to. The mean girl said she couldnt come, then right at the last minute (when she found out my other friend was coming) she asked if she could still come. I was afraid to say no (even though i didnt want her there). She came, and was ignoring me and being mean to me. But then my parents came in and she started acting so nice!! Can someone please tell me how I can stand up to her and show her that she cant be mean to me anymore?
2007-06-13 21:49:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This girl is two faced and let me tell you she is no friend.
It is up to you to decide the type of person you want to hang around with. You should dump this so-called friend. This girl does not deserve your friendship
P.S. You don't have to stand up to her. Just ignore her. Also, you have no control over how she behaves towards you. You can't change her.
2007-06-13 21:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by seashell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Sweetie, I'm so sorry your having such a hard time with this little girl. My daughter had the same problem when she was in middle school. Come to find out the little girl that was being mean to my daughter was just jealous of her. Sometimes people put others down and treat them unfair, or unfriendly because they are jealous of what the other person has, or is, or just has low self esteem that it makes them feel better and bigger when they do this. If you are scared of her, and you feel that she is going to harm you in any way you really need to talk to your mom or dad and ask them what to do. I wouldn't want to tell you what I would do if the tables where reversed and you either get in trouble or get hurt or the other little girl get hurt, Ya know? I would really suggest Talking to your parents or if you have an older brother or sister. Also, if you feel threatened while you are at school at ANY TIME BY THIS LITTLE TWERP who is giving you problems please go straight to your teacher or to the principal, or some one of authority. You take care and hope it works out for you.
2007-06-13 21:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by Hard Core Dance Poles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be that she just wants to trouble u or she is very concerned of the way people think about her
u said she gets together with a big group of girls
maybe she got some bad influence by those girls
try to be patient
and talk to her about this
but if she doesn't listen to u then u could do the same and ignore her...
if u want to make a speech to her...
(u said u din't have the guts to stand up to her)
then u could ask a frend to help u and throw a speech on the mean girl
go get her girl! ^_~
2007-06-13 21:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what her problem is. You two used to be such good friends, but it sounds like since you left and come back she's changed a lot. It sounds like she worries what certain people think of her, and that she needs to act different around different groups. You need to get her alone, and ask her seriously why she's acting like this towards you, and see where it goes from there.
2007-06-13 21:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by in2you86 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
people are strange id say just to first of all let her know how you feel and let your opinion be known then not talk to her whats the worse that could happen? you get beaten up? its still not as bad as keeping everything bottled up i find that if you stand up for yourself people will show more respect she prolly just acts in diff ways to try to A) impress other people that she is trying to become "cool" to or B) trying to feel impowered by making you feel week .... people are crude... good luck ♥
2007-06-13 21:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your other friends and find out why she acts that way toward you. Take her on the side and ask her if she is angry with you for some reason. Tell her that you would like to work the problem out with her.
2007-06-13 21:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She does not really focus much on you, and i think that you are worrying too much about the way she behaves. She has many more personal problems that she focuses her attention on. Its best to be calm and relaxed around her, and don't get attached to thinking about her.
2007-06-13 22:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by driving_blindly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the girl seem not to be interested that is why she is pretending alot with you.let her go and move on with your new friends coz why should she be mean to you and later on pretend to be nice when your parents came in.
it is better without her.
cheers
2007-06-13 22:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by joyland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget about the firendship as it is going one-sided. You will end up being hurt.
2007-06-13 21:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's a crazy chic.... maybe she's trying to prove something that she's not. talk to her. open communication is the best...
2007-06-13 22:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by Marie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋