my fiance's parents said they are against us marrying due to my two sons (8 and 9) are from my past marriage. Even though we share a daughter (2 1/2 yr old) together. And we have been together for 5 yrs.
2007-06-13 19:41:43 · 23 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also i dont have my parents they are deceased and my sister is in vegetative state in a nursing home, and my brother and i dont really talk.
My ex taught my 8yr old to hate very much.
2007-06-13 20:03:23 · update #1
I say your fiances parents need to get with the times and be thankful you all are wanting to get married. My husband had a cow bc his daughter got pregnant before being married and said i would have never thought that out of my daughter. Get a grip. I would say anyone that judges you bc you have kids needs to examine their self and why they feel that way. What does your fiance say about the situation? Both of you are adults so I would do what you think is right. They will get over it. My husband is 27 yrs older than me but i dont care what people think including family. you can only do so much to make family happy. when it comes to your love life you need to make your self and the man happy and dont worry about what family thinks to a point. if he is abusive or mean or disrespectful then that is different. But only you two can know how you feel
2007-06-13 19:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by thegreathaynes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem isn't your fiance's parents. It's your fiance.
Why wasn't he willing to marry you when you had your daughter together? Why was he willing to risk letting you take your sons and his daughter and move to Zimbabwe without having any say in the matter? Why does he continue to risk pissing you off enough to let you easily leave him?
Why doesn't he want his daughter to have the safety and security of growing up in a marriage? If you've been together for 5 years, why doesn't he want to be man enough to give you the safety and security of a life-long relationship?
If he's not man enough to marry you already, he'll never be man enough to break away from his parents' will and be truly yours.
He'll be living with them before the end of the year.
2007-06-13 19:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by ann81969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the kin who're against mentioned particular rationalization why they experience that way? if so, are the justifications they state valid concerns? If the justifications are actually not that super of a topic then bypass forward and get married, in basic terms understand that the two certainly one of you have got a similar complexities to artwork by like various couple does. once you are going to teach the relatives which you 2 must be together, it will be a technique that ought to take some years.
2016-10-17 05:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by prebor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be another reason that they haven't let on. I would talk to them and find out if you can get to the bottom of their objections. If you decide to marry against their wishes and this isn't figure out now it will only be there underneath everything in the future and could cause worse problems. Try to have a real heart to heart with them and keep your emotions under control even if they have a hard time doing the same.
2007-06-13 19:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your fiance are truly happy then get married. You have been together for five years and obviously it's going well. You are not marrying your fiances parents you are going to marry your lover. If the kids were not an issue for both of you then it shouldn't be an issue now. It's your life and you have to be happy with it. Tell the opposing parents that "We are going to get married with or without your consent. We understand your concerns but we are happy together and we plan on staying that way with or without you. We really want you involved with the children so please just accept the fact that we are in love and we are going to live out our lives together." Just let them know that you have to live your life, because your the one that has to live it not them. It's not rude in anyways to state your feelings to them. It's rude of them for stating there's in such an abrupt way. So if you truley love your fiance then go for it. Just remember it's what you have to want. Be happy for yourself and don't let the parents give you any reason to not continue on with this marriage. Good Luck!
2007-06-14 06:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by tazzyp01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, are you marrying him just because of the 2.5 year old. Or do you TRULY love the man, not like you loved the last guy who knocked u up 2 times. But a sincere love that you can explain to his parents
2007-06-13 19:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by James 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing but we got married anyway and my father in law kept on bashing me and his son that is where i just got to the point where i said fine you will never see your grandson again bc this was an off an on thing he slowed down after my son was born but then he would start again but i was tired of the off and on bc he would bash us in front of my son and then i told him if this how you want to act then so be it and you will not see your grandson again. its a lt that is basically what changed is tune. and he did not even come to our wedding before my son was born but you know i didnt care and neither did my then bf now husband. we did it anyway bc we loved each other. and we new it. and we are still married and we did patch things up with his dad. so we do get along now. those times had been awile now.
but make sure your fiance is backing you up too because my husband stood up for me to his dad also i was not the only one so make sure you are not the only one either.
I WOULD GET MARRIED WITH OR WITHOUT THEIR BLESSING longs you guys love each other then go for it.
2007-06-13 19:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its not that easy. Since he is already your fiance I am sure you both are game for getting married to each other irrespective of what you in laws (to be) would want. But take a few things into consideration, specially finances, in case he is not completly independent. If both of you are financially secure and can provide and good life to all your children including yourselves, and above all love each other, then hey! what you waiting for!?
2007-06-13 19:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by All Aces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly loves you,marriage is not an important thing already. Since u have share a daughter together,i think w/o marriage should be acceptable.
2007-06-13 19:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl do what you and your fiance feel is right in your hearts. The parents will come along or they won't. But continue living your lives, you've been doing it
2007-06-13 20:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋