Since I had my baby 3 month old. My best friend doesnt call anymore and Im sure its because Im not at her beck and call any more. I dont drive her around (she doesnt have a license) and I dont bring things to her because my son is my main concern now. I always apologise when this happens but this time I have had enough should I just let her go?
2007-06-13 19:31:10 · 16 answers · asked by Lucky Mummy to 2!!! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yep it is not worth it. Your baby is the most important part of your life. Let her see this.
2007-06-13 19:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by c 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure how long you two have known each other but it seems that she means a lot to you despite the circumstances. But....
To be quite honest with you, if she was a real friend to you, this would be the time when she can be to you what you have been to her for a long time. I am sure you could use the help with a new baby. So the real question is: Why isn't she using this time to bond with you and your new baby?
This doesn't mean she isn't a friend to you but, just maybe, she doesn't know how to respond to your new found responsibility of being a mother.
Stop apologizing for being a mother to your son!
2007-06-14 03:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by vhampton06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still call her a friend??
I would rather say that she is a very egoist nature, because you have a 3 month old baby to take care for and honestly, I can´t understand such peoples behaviour.
My friend had her first baby just 6 month ago and it`s us who take care for her and look after her not the other way around.
She has been just using you and now she feels, that she can´t use you anymore and walks away.
You should look for real friends, a friendship consists in understanding and receiving and giving. She just wants to receive from you.
Take care!!
2007-06-14 12:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to talk to her frankly, explain to her that with the presence of a baby in your life, things became more difficult to be done. That your life now is totally occupied but also tell her that you still care about her as a friend and that your friendship means so much to you and that you hope that it will remain the same. If she was able to understand this and get to normal, go ahead and keep on your friendship with her cause we don't always find good friends. If not, just let her go but don't initiate it.
2007-06-14 02:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i read your question i was like " ooh...that was unsual " and keep on thinking if she really did that to you. friends should be happy if their friends already had a son or a daughter and what's common is that our friends are usually the godmothers or the godfathers of our children. you only have to think of two reasons why she's like that to you. first reason, she's absolutely immature about stuff like that. second reason, she's definitely not your friend. period. ya know, you will know your real friends through times like this. look, i'm glad your main concern is your baby. you should! or many mama's out there will kill ya! lol. you don't have to apologize to her either on everything..you dont owe her anything. and you shouldn't waste your time thinking if its right for you to let her go...let her on her own. now, your bestfriend is your baby. just like what i do with my boys. they are my bestfriends.
2007-06-14 03:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_ria 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she isn't much of a friend, and not even a very good acquaintance! If she was a true friend, she'd be there asking what she could do to help you with your new baby. Quit apologizing to her, cuz you have done nothing wrong. Focus your energy on enjoying motherhood and raising that "little man" into a good, caring person like it sounds you are. They grow up so fast, so savor every moment you have together. God bless you!
2007-06-14 02:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should ignore such friends, who don't care for u nor understand u. World is big, u will get as many friends u want but choose only those who will help u out in ur difficult times , support u and share ur happiness.
2007-06-14 02:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OY !!!!! I hope you die??? what ever your name is...why dont you shut the hell up, thats my sister your talking about. Having a new baby is the best joy in the whole wide world, obviously you dont understand !!!!!! Honestly !!!!!!! YOU ARE THE PSYCHO !!!!!!! Dont come on here, if your going to be nothing but negative........
Sis, you deserve friends who are going to stick by you through think and thin...always remember that, and you will always have ME. Love you always xoxox
2007-06-14 06:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a mother i know how it is. our children are our main. your friend is ofcourse not a friend.she was mainly like a user.she only wanted you to take her around and do things for her. you have NO reason whatsoever to apologize.she needs to show that she is a friend.and she should check up on you and your gorgeous baby. dont let her bother you. if she wants to act immature then let her. you have the greates friend ever...YOUR baby!!!
2007-06-14 02:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by <3 Is It You <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you define friend? No apologies are necessary, your child must come first. She probably does not understand that you are no longer her servant so you must make it clear to her that this is a give and take relationship.
I hope you have other friends that are more understanding and can become closer to them.
2007-06-14 02:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You never had a friend!!!
Do you believe now?
She did you a favor by going away.
2007-06-14 19:33:37 · answer #11 · answered by feysunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋