My polite answer was that I was about to enroll back into college to finish my degree...I was being restrainfully diplomatic and lady-like. My natural reaction was to bean her in the head with a dozen dead on rubber band shots!!
2007-06-13 18:12:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Some people think that all women want a husband so if a woman doesn't have a husband they assume she is looking for one. I went out on date recently and the guy said something about me choosing the wrong men in the past... I asked him what made him think I was unhappy with my choices and he said, "Well, because you're not married." I was surprised because I have only been out of graduate school for a year. I guess I was more concerned with finding the right job than getting married.
2007-06-13 18:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by ecogeek4ever 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
A girl I used to work with would ask me questions similar to that. She would ask if I had found someone "special" yet. When you're single people often think that you are not happy and that you would obviously be looking for a relationship, when for me it was quite the opposite. Some women can't understand that you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy...I would just ignore her comment.
2007-06-14 13:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, what a busybody. It reminds me of one of my old, nosy aunties. After she asked my cousin (with the fabulous career) if she was going to get married soon "while she still had time", she asked me (with the fantastic marriage) if I had figured out a "real" career yet. (I'm a SAHM). So I think nosy, obnoxious people will always have something to say to young women. In the workplace, though, it's incredibly innapropriate. You would be well within your rights to gasp and look shocked while she backtracks a bit.
2007-06-14 11:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by Junie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we can hope that she was only trying to make small talk with you, instead of probing at you and trying to go where it "supposedly" hurts. i'm thinking she has more traditional values and is less familiar with yours.
maybe she just didn't want to talk about work, and doesn't know what to ask about? she probably doesn't know that the scouter reports your yahoo answers power level being OVER NINE THOUSAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAND!!!!!!!
which means that you'd whack her pretty good with all those rubber band shots.
context and tone means everything, so if you are asking about this here, i think we can pretty much guess how she asked you.
2007-06-14 03:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I get the same question all of the time. It amazes me that so many women are so stuck on marriage, they feel they are not complete unless they have a husband. And for many they marry the first man that asks. Very sad. They have not got to the mature understanding that being alone is not lonely... A marriage does not compete a women, it enhances what she already has and allows her to share what she has with the one she loves. Many women have not (sadly) figured this out yet. They believe their self worth is defined in their husband and his title... God bless, Just my opinion. ****
2007-06-14 11:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
People make assumptions that everyone is like or similar to them and what works for them will work for you. It's not only too personal but makes alot of assumptions. I just handle things like this by saying as little as possible. I'd just say nope not yet. And if they volunteer matchmaking services just say no thankyou.
2007-06-14 14:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. It is natural to mull on such behavior and even consider a rebel yell response. Pick your battle
fields and conduct yourself accordingly. Be a worthy General.
2007-06-18 00:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously just laughed out loud! It is so odd that many people (including some women) still think that a woman needs a man to validate her. This sort of thinking is medieval and is obviously harmful to women. The best thing we can do is to educate people, especially our children.
2007-06-14 05:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Obviously she's one of those people who thinks that singlehood is an unnatural state for a woman. You handled that remarkably well. My answer to that question is, "I haven't met anyone worth my time."
2007-06-14 10:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will hear crap like this every once in awhile. It's hard to keep from hitting them over the head with a blunt object but you have to do it anyway.
2007-06-14 01:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋