My wife does not think I love her?

Question

I've been snapping at her lately and haven't shown her much affection. I've been keeping the reason why I'm so uptight from her because I want to appear like I can take on the world even though my job is stressing me out!

Answer 1

Most women measure love through affection and attention. Maybe you can save face about not being able to handle it all and hug, hold or spend time with her instead of barking all the time.

On the other hand, she is your life-partner, so what's the harm in letting her know what is on your mind. Maybe with the understanding, she can comfort or help you through a hard time

Answer 2

Is this my husband ???? lol . My husband is doing the same thing. I ask and when he doesnt tell or share it makes us feel like there is something being hidden. Most women always think it involves another woman. WE know you can't take on the world, neither can we . Just be open and tell your wife. You can vent to her about why you are so stressed for a half hour and then she can vent to you. She will then feel better knowing that you got it off your chest and you can talk about the important stuff like your lives together.
If you keep this up you are heading down a road that could push your wife away, and if you really love her you dont want to push her into another mans arms just because you wanted her to believe you can conquer the world.
Best of luck to you

Answer 3

I think you'd feel better if you talked to her,or someone,maybe a friend? And not be so uptight with her.

My husband use to hold a lot in to.He knows I'll listen he just tries to leave work at work.But when he does talk about it,he feels better and not so stressed.He doesnt have as much stress now (changed jobs 2 yrs ago) and he's better.But he still holds a lot in.

Men arent like women and just chat about everything but sometimes men do need to just let it out.She wont think any less of you. And it'll help your marriage because you wont be so grouchy :)


Or...post it all on here...everyone here will listen and hopefully you'll feel better getting it out :)

Answer 4

I hope you know you are not alone... My hubby has lots of job stress, seven years of perfect attendance, never been late either... And just passed his 14 year or 13 year mark with the company... He does his job well, likes his job for the most part but the pay su***! Things happen there like any job. What helps him is when I sit with direct eye contact, and listen attentively ... "She is your wife, this is part of our job, or duty as a wife..." When he talks to me it releases his anxieties and I am glad to be able to help... And sometimes there are even other ways I can help... YOU have to learn, that it is OK, to let your fears show... She is your wife, give her a chance, she might surprise you... Sometimes I know when my hubby just needs to have a nice massage to take him away from it... This leads to other things so see you are really missing out on forming a closer , deeper bond with her...
Just know you are not alone... I hope it all works out for you...

Answer 5

You should confide in your wife. She doesn't expect you to take on the world, and she would probably be upset to know you have been holding this back from her. My husband is my best friend also. When something bothers me, I tell him right off the flip. You should do the same. That's what spouses are supposed to do, support one another. You need to give her a chance to do so. Then apologize, take her out for a romantic evening, and show her a little affection. Then promise her from now on you won't hold back when something is bothering you, and stand on it!

Answer 6

Maybe she's stressed out to. If you have kids, schools are letting out too right now. That's enough to make her even more depressed, more stress. Sounds like you both need a vacation, even if it's just a weekend getaway together. Don't know where you live, but here it's supposed to be a nice weekend, make the most out of it. You need to chill out a little and relax. Take care you two.

Answer 7

You might want to see my most recent question...

Show her you need her affection at this moment, she might help your work seem more bearable. Yes you might be very well capable of taking on the world by your self... but what is the point if she is right there to support you.

Don't let her think there is problem between you two if it is only a work-related issue. You might make her feel better if you can trust her with your problems, if you can accept her support now that the problems are accumulating...

Good luck,

Answer 8

Where did you get the idea that manhood is being able to take on the world alone? Your wife is your partner and friend. Believe me, she will respect you piles more if you are honest and open with her. And you know what the other big upside is? YOU will be able to deal with the stress much better as you get it out and find ways to collaboratively deal with it.

Answer 9

women are emotional beings.. u cant take ur job stress out on her... try to make her feel loved.. i know job can be stressing but once in a while romance will help u reliev stress and also improve your marriage.. do something romantic for ur wife like a candle lit dinner or going out just the2 of u.. giv her small surprises like love notes hidden under her clothes so that she can find them etc

Answer 10

Lack of communication is going to ruin your marriage. We, women, want to share everything with the man we love. If something is bothering you she is the best person to share your worries. Send her some flowers to her work or at home, write a nice note telling her how much you love her and how important she is to you. Even that we know, we want to hear I love yous and I need yous. So, share with her everything and you will feel better. Good luck!!!