I love my boyfriend, i really do. but having sex with other men makes me happy. I dont know why, but I just cant control myself. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, but have been unloyal almost the ENTIRE time.. but I DO LOVE HIM!! I would do ANYTHING for him! he is the most amazing guy ive ever met.. but i can stop cheating!!
also.. he cheated on me about 3 months ago and i cant forget about it!! so now im having sex with guys almost as revenge.. and thinking in my head every time i do it... "haha.." and i cry all the time, but when im with him im so happy... ugh. im so confused. ive just dug myself in so deep.. i need help.
2007-06-13 17:32:14 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thanks for the warning...
Serioulsy, I can sit here and say, "Hey babe, one night with me and all your problems are gone."
Or I can also say, "Shame on you, blah, blah, etc."
I won't do either...I do admire your honesty tho. I think you are intelligent enough and tough enough to see it all through. If you believe in Karma you will cease your cheating and start over...maybe not with him, but with yourself. As long as you're honest with yourself and retain your self-respect, you will begin to feel much better about yourself. Just don't go hanging your head over all this...No man or woman is worth it.
2007-06-13 17:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Kisty your contradicting, you say that you like having sex with other men and it makes you happy and that almost the entire time you have cheated on him. Then you say your having sex out of revenge. Which is it? I Think you like it. I also think you do love your boyfriend. If you can't stop cheating on him and you love him.... let him go!
2007-06-13 18:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by myocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just doing what you want to do. You can stop if you want to. If you really love him I hope you stop before he catches you. If you didn't like the fact thatt he cheated, you should have left him 3 months ago.
You should seek counseling though. It wouldn't be a bad idea, because you sound like you have low self esteem and that you really don't like yourself. I am not saying these things to be mean, I'm only saying that you won't ever be happy until you start to love yourself.
2007-06-15 10:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you might fall under tha catagory of NYMPH. That is if you are having the sex for sex and sex only. Meaning if you are dating or seeing the other guys as in dating then it is a different situation. BUT STRICKLY for sex then NYMPH. And if ur a NYMPH, there isn't much ur gonna do bout that. I say ENJOY. And u may want to consider some toys in an effort to lessen ur cheatin.
2007-06-13 22:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, fess up and tell him what you have done in the passed 3 years.
Think about the pain that you felt when he cheated on you and multiply that by the number of times that you cheated on him.... that's how he feels.
You shouldn't be in a relationship if you can't keep it in your pants around other guys.
You need help, seek therapy and start afresh, it sounds like he deserves better too, or he doesn't love you if he is putting up with it.
2007-06-13 17:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have always felt that if you are going to act single ya might as well be single. you cheat on him all the time but yet it makes you mad that he cheated on you . what a class act you are. where i come from we have a word that describes people like you. *****. if you love the guy, break things off with him and get into porn. then you can have all the strage d**k you can handle. plus we will all get to watch. on the serious side, the next time you fell like cheatin, just think about how you will feel if he cheats on you....again. maybe you will not do it. if he is a good guy and good to you, then you should die for what you are doing to him that he does not know. if he treats you bad then you should leave him anyway. e-mail me if you want.
2007-06-13 17:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by jasper 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not much of a revenge if he found out that u cheated on him so he was getting u back.
u have a problem with being faithful don't know why unless something happened in ur life that makes u believe doing things this way is correct.
if u really love him u'll let him go, yes let him go, does he not deserve better?? u need to sort out this problem either by talking to a specialist or learning control
2007-06-13 17:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
""" but I DO LOVE HIM!! I would do ANYTHING for him! ""
well, you said it already. If you are truly happy having him as your boyfriend, I think cheating isn't suppose to happen. be satisfied with him. If there are things that is lacking in your relationship, don't look for it to other people. Share each other's "incompleteness" and you will be truly happy.
Another point, if you really love him, you will control yourself from cheating. It is really unfair for both of you. Be honest with him, tell him what you have done.
I think you are not ready yet for permanent settling. Sorry.
2007-06-13 17:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by ^_^ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok since u love him stay with him. i mean cant u just have sex with him! or maybe u guys might need lil break to think through things! i no it is hard just sit down and think about wat is keep hurting him or stop cheating! if u relly love the guy u should stop cuz chances are he relly loves u to! does he no? if he doesnt maybe u should tell him i mean it would be better than lying to him. it will prolyl make u feel better which is the most important thing right? crying sucks and love is hard u will get threw it!
2007-06-13 17:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by starstar_bam_24 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mayb u aren't in love wth him, If you were then you wouldn't be cheating on him. Why dnt u break up wth him and call it a day. And how can you b cheating on him out of revenge when you've been cheating on him since u guys have been going out?
2007-06-13 17:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋