He lives an hour a way and doesn't have a reason to be in the area. I live off the main road and it's not like he's just driving by. One of my neighbors said he stopped in front of my house and said that he was watching them walk in. I don't understand what is going on. We have a 19 month old together whom he doesn't see or half of the time pay child support for. But he keeps spying. What should I do? I can't prove he's stalking me, but it's getting kind of obvious.
2007-06-13 17:26:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Reply to JA
I do allow him to see his child. But he chooses not to. He is remarried and has a 9 month old now. He keeps telling me he doesn't have time to see him for the past year and he is turning it around on me and yet he is just driving by and not knocking on the door to see him, that sounds strange huh? And yes we had a bad relationship, he beat me for 2 years.
2007-06-13 17:46:34 · update #1
Okay, I am remarried and he know that and know my husband and knows all of my friends, just to clarify things up for a few people.
2007-06-13 18:14:48 · update #2
Moon him and flip him off and tell him there's alot more where that came from.
2007-06-13 17:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jennifer,this sounds serious.
Obviously.you two must have a very volitile past together,if you have a 19 month old together and do not talk,and he is so unwelcome as not to be allowed to see his own child(though I understand your fury that he's not paying child support)...and...
If you two don't get along,you may want to go to the police station and file a report right there,in case something (God forbid) does happen,he will be a number one suspect...
There is obvious turmoil that ahs gone on that you may not have mentioned...Either way,I'm sure he wants to see his kid..it's natural,and he's driving by as if it pains him in some way..
Still,if you are afraid and you guys don't speak,get the law involved immediately.
Don't just call them...go to the station and make sure someone hears the whole story.........
2007-06-13 17:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was abusive to you for 2 years I would be worried about this behavior. Abusers like the control they have over you and it is very common that they do not want to let you go. His behavior indicates that he is stalking you. Obviously he doesn't care if he sees his child. He wants to find out if you have another man, and if he sees one, there could be real trouble. I'd get a restraining order on him. And ask your neighbors to keep on watching out for him because his behavior sounds threatening to me. I'd be worried if I were in your shoes.
2007-06-13 18:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
abusers have a hard time letting go of their victims. i believe he is frustrated that you can actually survive, have a life without him. he is definately checking up on you to see if you have friends, or a boyfriend. i don't believe he cares about or is checking up on your child.
i also think you should get a restraining order. he will then have to stay away from your house.
i'm wondering if you received the house in your divorce settlement. my ex did the same because he couldn't accept the fact that i was in "his" house. he even took things when i wasn't home.
it didn't get resolved until i sold the house and moved.
it's a control thing, hon.
2007-06-13 18:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by shyanne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call the Police Department and at least do a report over the phone. If you really mean business have them send a copy to you and you can send it to him. You can call your state offices and talk to a division that handles collecting your child support for your baby. He will have to pay them and the div. issues your check. You won't ever have to see him. Best of luck to you and yours!!
2007-06-13 17:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have witnesses, then yes you do have proof. Cal up your lawyer and have a restraining order put on him and start forcing him to pay child support or he goes to jail. Take pictures if you see him again, with date, make sure they aren't digital.
2007-06-13 17:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact the local police to alert them that he keeps driving by your house. If he's spying on the neighbors, that's a weird sign that he's watching their activity as well....I would definitely call the police ASAP...they will catch him driving by!
2007-06-13 17:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by Amy R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's getting obvious, then you probably can prove it. Before you try to take legal action, though, maybe just try talking to him about it. Divorce makes people do crazy things.
2007-06-13 17:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a talk with your husband about this! See what he has to say about it and then the two of you's can decide what you want to do about it. But definatly tell your husband about this!!
2007-06-13 18:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order and when he comes around call the authorities on him.
2007-06-13 17:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋