My husband has this woman he deals with everyday at work.( she's in a diffrent stateso they just talk on the phone) About 3 months ago i saw emails he wrote to her and hid from me. He talked about her and her daughter comming to our state for a visit.I know he talks to her in im and she always calls him babe.Should any of this bother me or am i over reacting? He claims she's married but none of the emails back and forth mentioned me or her husband.Thanks
2007-06-13 17:12:01 · 21 answers · asked by lillulu460 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That sounds like something I just did to my wife as bad as that sounds but my intentions or actions were never as innocent as i made them out to be to my wife...... just something to think about. I almost lost her because of it, kinda eye opening
Tell him you dont want him talking to her anymore because it makes you uncomfortable and if he continues too, then something is up. You gotta let him know you arent playing though
2007-06-13 17:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be really pissed off. Sounds like he already "likes" her a great deal. He's all excited about her (and her daughter) visiting. He talks to her on IM and email...sounds a lot more involved that business to me.
He may not have don't anything wrong but this woman has him by his family jewels and the way both are interacting is not appropriate for married people. If you are unhappy about it make that message LOUD AND CLEAR to hubby.
Why does he have to talk to her at all? Someone else could handle the "business" call could they not?
I would be careful if I were you. This could the beginning of trouble for your marriage.
2007-06-13 17:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this should bother you! He's hiding e-mails from you and intending to meet this person. If he has nothing to hide, he should be talking about all of this openly with you and inviting you to come along. Don't fall for the 'just a friend' line. I'll bet you don't send messages to a guy who calls you 'babe.' Listen to what your gut is telling you. My husband cheated in the past (with a married co-worker) so my reaction to something like this would be to throw his stuff out on the lawn and change the locks. Best of luck to you.
2007-06-13 17:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by MNature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mabye they flirt back to feel sexy. It's nice, even when you are off the market to feel attractive and wanted, and maybe your friend is making them feel that way. I know when i go out with my girlfriends, i get hit on quite a bit, i might flirt back a little bit to get a drink bought for me, but at the end of the night, i know there is no way in hell i'm going home with anyone else but to man. I still believe in the sanctity of marriage and the life long bond. Sucks that some people like your friend go for the married ones, and even worse that some of the married ones cave into it.
2016-05-19 23:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by chi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would bother me,and in my opinion you are not overreacting,but in turn you may be underreacting.
Nip it in the bud ASAP if you want a happy marraige,confront him about what you found and the IM's(extremely inappropriate),tell him," her or me"...
Smile......calmly leave the room...
Then you need never mention it again..
If he's guilty ,he'll think your up to something(such as divorce papers,private I,etc.)
If he's cheating or thinking of it,this should put a little dampener on is intensity.
Part of the fun of an affair would be that it's a hurtful secret.
If you don't react hurt,and assume he knows you're not an idiot,it will surprise him.
2007-06-13 17:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you say that the emails were hidden from you should be the first and only sign that you need to get this out in the open. you definately need to talk if not just to him but what about her...email her or call her and find out the deal. she may not know anything about you or she could and this really might all be nothing. the hiding part is what gets me!! i would definately be suspicious!!!! go get him girl!!!!!
2007-06-13 17:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you would like to talk to her and see what her side is. And if he asks why tell him the truth you found some emails and you are not comfortable. If he gets offensive you know trouble is happening. Just take him to the side and tell how you feel. I would not leave nothing out and i would also tell him how that makes you feel.
2007-06-13 20:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by thegreathaynes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be livid. He is cheating on you. It's called emotional infidelity. He is a married man he has no business talking to her. Your intuition is right. I would tell him to tell her a** good bye or I would divorce him. I wouldn't put up with it for another minute. You shouldn't either. If you do you are letting him walk all over you and disrespect you. Oh no no no!
2007-06-13 17:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating. Unless he is completely open with you about this woman and have talked to her like a friend, she is nothing but trouble waiting to happen. I would confront her then him. I would want her to know how you feel about their friendship. Maybe she doesn't even know you exist. Your husband is headed towards an affair and it is up to you on what you want to do about it.
2007-06-13 17:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there getting to close!!! I'd be a bit concerned about it, maybe he thinks it's okay because he works with her. You need to have a serious talk to him about this situation between him and this woman, let him know that your concerned that he's getting too close to her. Good Luck!
2007-06-13 18:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋