Does it hurt the first time you have sex?

Question

Im in love. And my boyfriend told me he'd wait
forever if he had to for us to have sex.
He dosent push it. But hes waiting until
im ready. And i think in a few weeks i will be.

Does it hurt? Anything i need to know?
Im a little bit scared.
But then again im not.
I love this boy and i know he loves me.


:) thank you.

Answer 1

Yes, it hurts. But it doesn't HAVE too. Usually when you are having sex for the first time you are both inexperienced and that is why it ends up hurting. Use a lubrication and tell him to be very gentle. Believe me, it gets better and DONT FORGET TO PROTECT YOURSELF!!

I had to add this.....like someone above said, if you are only 13, PLEASE WAIT. You are WAY too young to give your body to someone. In 10 years from now when you find someone that you are head over heals in love with and want to marry, you WILL regret having sex at this age. Please think twice...hell, think 3 times before you give up your virginity. It is truly the last bit of innocence.

Answer 2

Hey great to hear you are not being pressured into anything.
First time usually tends to hurt for a girl. Although i have heard (on rare occasion) that some didn't think it did; though i don;t know if that's true for sure.
If you are lttle scared that's ok, its a new thing, and a kinda big step in your life and your relationship. new things can be scary; but in the end it should be worth it. You have to go through your first time eventually, so not doing b/c you are scared of it hurting shouldnt stop you so much.
Just wait until you are ready before you decide to go through with it. You have to be absolutely positive it is the right thing to do, with the right guy. Hopefully you are old enough to make the right choice, so far it sounds like you have by asking about it and waiting this long.
in the end you are the only one who is going to know if you are ready or not. Remember to be safe, and make sur eyou are prepared for any consequences tha may occur

good luck :)

Answer 3

I'm a guy senior citizen, this is the truth, so I'm old fashion when I was young like you are now religion was really a guide to our behavior. Like sex before marriage is a sin and if you are religious and you did it anyway. Then if you said anything about this it would be to a close friend. Now for your question...For guys the 1st time is an exciting pleasure never before experienced. For girls you have a like a thin membrane just inside your vagina that will be broken with penetration. That is the pain you will experience and then bleeding a little because it is just a teeny part of you that is damaged in a 1st time sexual intercourse. Now that I'm older I don't believe sex should ever have been taught to be a sin. There is so much wonderful pleasure for both male and female to enjoy with each other. You should be mature enough to understand love and the difference beween just having sex for the fun and the makeing love with someone you really do care for and to know enough to be safe and sure of your partner. I hope I am helpful for you. I hope you are really really sure before you consent.

Answer 4

It will hurt somewhat. Get on the pill. If it's been less than two weeks that you've been on the pill, have him wear a condom so your body can adjust to the hormones. Also, think about lubing up to help this first time. But, if you're still a little girl, you need to wait. Not only are you not responsible for any of the consequences, but you're still growing! It will hurt a lot more since you're still little. Hope you make the right decision.

Answer 5

If you're underage, the best thing to do is wait until you're at least 18 . I'm your classic 40+ year-old virgin, (go ahead and laugh, people). But yes, from what I understand it does hurt for girls the first time. There is also some vaginal bleeding. I chose to abstain from sex intentionally until the day I got married. Perhaps you should too. It may save you a lot of problems in the long run.

Answer 6

It can hurt.

Your boyfriend sounds caring though. Ask him to enter very slowly allowing your muscles time to stretch. Also when the hyman is broken there is some pain but it does not last long. Again ask him to stop till it passes. There may also be a little blood. On the other hand If you use tampons, you probably do not have have a hyman anyway. I have never met anyone who did not agree that the 2nd time is soooooo much better than the first so do not give up.



Please practice safe sex.

Answer 7

Awwwwwwwwwwwww l'amour!!! <3

now, as sweet as that is, yes there are some things you should know:

-BIRTH CONTROL. Always use a condom to prevent STD/STI's and going on the pill now would be a very good idea to prevent pregnancy so I would talk to your doctor.

-Yes it hurts.

-You love this "boy". Hun, the longer you wait, the better (and less painful) it'll be. That's fact. Do not have underage sex. I'm not an adult saying "EW EW SEX SEX IT'S BAD IT WILL KISS YOU" but underage sex WILL bite you in the butt later in life. Trust me on this.

If he's willing to wait (and for whatever reason he soon doesn't then dump him baby) then you should too. Wait til you guys are like 18...

Answer 8

Sweetheart, Let me give you some advice. Yes it is a painful experience. But I can't be a hypocrite about it cuz I have only had sex 1 time and that was a few months ago. But let me just suggest dat u have thoroughly thought this out. Cause I face everyday wit regret. I am only 14 so I don't know y I am tryin to act like Oprah, just tryin to give a lil helpful advice. I'm OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

#1 if he says he'll wait, then hold him to it, but I seriously doube he's willing to wait for 4 years 'till youre old enough to get married...

#2 How long have you been with him, and how do you know what love is whan you're only 14?

#3 If youre like anyone I know, you will change your mind quite a few times and date several guys before uou get married, why give yourself away to so many men?

#4 IT HURTS MOST WOMEN TO HAVE SEX, If it doean't hurt to have sex, it will hurt when you break up with him even more, it will hurt your pride, it will hurt your reputation...


WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW HOW TO PROPERLY USE A CONDOM (TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM A STD, and you've already suspected him of having one - how can you know for sure?)AND YOU ARE ON BIRTHCONTROL (for extra protection, teen pregnancy isn't fun - it definately hurts to have a baby or to kill one)AND YOU ARE AT LEAST 2 YEARS OLDER, IF NOT UNTIL YOU HAVE A REAL MAN WHO CAN TAKE CARE OF YOU AND ALLOW YOU TO GIVE THE MOST PRECIOIS GIFT YOU EVER COULD.

Answer 10

You said in your previous postings your 14. And your dating an 18 year old. Wait until your married! But to answer your question, yes it does hurt the first time having sex.