i met a man over a year ago and was instantly connected to him. We spoke for hours and hours, wishing we could have met under different circumstances, but since he was married, it went no further. I recently spoke to him again and he says he is getting adivorce and wants to be with me. It all sounds insanely cheesy- but I do believe it was love at first sight for both of us, although I've never believed in such a thing. This would require me to move to another state while his divorce is still being processed. I want to be with him, but think it may be wise to wait a while. However, I do want him to know that I am serious about being with him...
2007-06-13 16:38:46 · 22 answers · asked by Veronica W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest and don't rush into anything. If he wants you he will wait. Tell him you need time and you don't feel you should move till the divorce is final. If you do, you are sinning with a married man. Plus you should visit each other to make sure it is what you think it is. Don't uproot yourself and move and then find out it was just an infatuation or lust. Be careful, be sure and take your time.
2007-06-13 16:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a question?
You're making crazy talk. Unless you can get a job in another state just as easy as packing up your car and going there, or if you have heard him say wiht his own mouth that you can stay with him and he will support you until you get on your feet, then you're talking crazy talk.
You need to control your emotions and make some good solid decisions about what you will and will not do because if you move somewhere without more thought than that you are just a decision away (somebody else's decision) from being homeless.
2007-06-13 16:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do a darn thing until I saw actual proof of divorce. He could be lying to you just to see what you will do for him.
Right now, everything is fantasy and wonderful because you both have met/socialized under favorable conditions. When reality sets in, there's no money, bills have to be paid, lots of stress for different things, life gets ugly real fast. Besides, why get involved with someone who has baggage? Go meet men who have never married before.
2007-06-13 16:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Don't wait for him. Keep your options open!
I have been there. I dated a guy for half year. One day, his wife wrote me an email. It turned out that the whole time he had been fooling me telling me that he is a single man.
Your case is different from mine at least he is honest about his marriage.
My man begged me to get back with him even mentioned "divorce". But nope, who knows if someday he will go for another woman like he did for you.
2007-06-13 16:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by weirdo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from an ex-married man who used to make the same promises to the other woman. Do not move or get involved with him until the divorce is final and he can provide proof. I'm not proud of what I did in my past but I strung one poor girl along for about 2 years when she finally got tired of my BS and came to my house and told my wife everything. Trust me for your own feelings sake make sure he is divorced for real before you commit yourself to him.
2007-06-13 16:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by gymrat0187 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't sound like a good idea to me. If his wife didn't commit adultery on him and he divorces her, you will be committing adultery with him if he marries you. Read the Holy Bible and find out what the rules are for your self. After all it is your eternal soul you are playing with.
2007-06-13 17:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT!! Do NOT move and uproot yourself for him UNTIL the divorce is final.....even then, you should make him come to you. Why do YOU have to be the one who changes your whole life for the relationship? And I have to give you credit....I respect the fact that you didn't do anything with him while he was married.
2007-06-13 16:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, don't go until its final, and date before too, what if it was just the excitement of not being able to have one another that is making you feel this way? Date first.
2007-06-13 16:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Paige 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let him know how you feel.but i would not make
any move until the divorce is final, with any situaiton things
do happen. i would rather be safe then sorry. and if he
does not understand that then that might be a sign of
things to come.
2007-06-13 18:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT DIVORCE BETTER BE FINAL. SEE THE PAPER BEFORE ANYTHING. GET MARRIED THEN MOVE!. WORD OF ADVICE...MOST MARRIED MEN DO NOT LEAVE THEIR WIVES. I AM FRIENDS WITH ONE AND I AM GAY, BUT HE HAS TOLD ME HE WILL NEVER GET A DIVORCE FOR ANY OTHER WOMAN, WHICH IS GOOD.
2007-06-13 16:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋