I am married to a man 18 yrs older than me 61 v. 42. I have bipolar disease all my life. Bipolar is mainstay of my mother's side of family. My cousin committed suicide at 42. My sis is 43 and lives with her family, (daughter 14 & Husband) with my parents in the same house in another state. My husband comes from a family of 3 boys and 1 girl. His parents are elderly and his sister steals from the father. He needs to be in a h ome with his wife (she is one already with alzheimers). He won't go because she talked him into giving him his house and car. Both would have to be sold if he went to home. Anyway, we live in warm weather vacation area. His sister volunteers our house to any relative who needs recuperation. I can't say no to his parents because they are his parents. This last time was it for me. He is 90 and soiled all my furniture, etc. even though I am a nurse and know what precautions to take. My husband was in Vietnam & cop.Violence rules our lives, verbal no phys
2007-06-13 15:56:18 · 15 answers · asked by MaggieMae 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I spend no time alone. He works part time because he wants to. We have had no honeymoon even though we have been married 4 years. No one acknowledged our marriage. I feel I'm being betrayed and used. He is an incredible liar and never speaks the truth. Yet, he will buy me whatever I want. What I want is a safe place to go. I have no family to turn to and no money. I need a divorce before this gets worse.
2007-06-13 15:58:21 · update #1
tHAT IS SO SAD!! Do what you think is right! You know your own situation!!!
2007-06-13 16:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I am on my 3rd marriage. The first one was abusive and I got rid of that situation by suggesting the military. I, too, suffer from bipolar disorder as does my 11 1/2 year old.
I think first you need to suggest marriage counseling (if he is anything like my ex husband he'll fly off the handle and accuse you of calling him a bad husband and trying to embarrass him.). Do you work a full or part time job? I think you should write down the pros and cons. Example: why you married him; good times, bad times, the whole 9 yards and see which out ways. Of course you always have to try not only for the sake of the marriage but for the sake of your well being. You know, the "what if I had..." thoughts. Let me know how you are doing.
2007-06-13 16:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by shefairy2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best chalk it up and make it #5. How sad you put yourself in these situations. You're obviously rebounding each time and saw this guy as an easy mark ('he gives me everything I want'). Then welcome to the real world. Any woman that marries a man that much older has got to realize there's going to be major probs. Older men marrying much younger women (for trophy wives) also find that out. You should have dated long enough before marrying him to know what the family was like. He owns the house, his sister is his sister, you're just the wife at this point and jealous that they have seniority over you. You're using each other. Get out before your husband is 90 and no one wants you. Just don't jump on the next guy that comes along. Spend some time alone and learn to love yourself. Just sad you were so blinded by what he first offered in the relationship, that you didn't see the whole picture for what it was. 42 and four marriages scares me to death! Thought only movie stars did that. Bail!!
2007-06-13 16:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are bipolar then this is your problem. All the things you say about your husband are your imagination. Nothing you say can be trusted because of your disease. You are obviously unhappy and it won't get better because you are ill. For your husband's sake I would say go ahead and get a divorce. It would be the best thing for him. The best thing for you would be to live by yourself and have some type of caregiver. Sorry but it is best not to make both of you unhappy.
2007-06-13 16:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ken P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get out like you said before it gets worse, plus you said he was a liar. Next time think before getting married. This is your 4th marriage. Either you picking the wrong men or your not ready for marriage. For goodness sake you can make it on your own without all this stress.
2007-06-13 16:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage 4! Sounds like you need a divorce and don't need to get married anymore. 3 too many times.
2007-06-13 16:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by manybagolike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 marriages under 42 think about it
2007-06-13 16:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey take some money from your account and get out, i am sorry but this situation sounds no fun for anyone involved....... i am sorry you are in it.... your best bet is that you just work save up your money and get out on your own as soon as you can...
2007-06-13 16:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I think it's time for you to seek God, He loves you and can help you, ask Him to forgive you of all your sins, then ask Jesus to come into your heart....you will be brand new, and God will teach you and lead your life.....God bless you
2007-06-13 16:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4th marriage hahaha! You didn't figure out that it wasn't for you the first three times?
Sorry
2007-06-13 16:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question. get out and make a better life for yourself!!! he is taking advantage of your niceness, adn youth, and occupation!
2007-06-13 16:01:10 · answer #11 · answered by princessfionafantasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋