what did you LEARN in CHILDHOOD that has HELPED You Grow Up as WHO YOU ARE right NOW?

Question

who taught you this lesson? is it self-Learned....
is it out of a GOOD or BAD childhood experience?
:-)

Answer 1

Never give up no matter how many times you're beaten. Stick to it.

My mother and father showed me that through their lives.

My father, a pastor for 14 years, has been maligned, back-stabbed and frustrated by all sorts of people for his beliefs. He's still in church today.

My mother has muscular dystrophy in both her legs so she has to get around with a walker and maybe some extra help. She raised two boys, helps out with various charities and doesn't let her condition stop her.

Answer 2

I learned 2 very important lessons at age 11. My stepfather was a severe alcoholic and beat my mother over the head with a fire poker. I learned to hate alcohol abuse, though strangely enough my first husband was also an alcoholic.
The other lesson - a lesson of courage was self taught. I was the major person involved in saving another girl's life, so that one turned out just fine.

Answer 3

I learned many things as a child....i learned that sometimes its better not to show yourself, and just go with what you have to do until one day you can be free from all the things that hold you down....i learned that no matter what i do, i will always be the outcast in any given society or bunch of people....i learned that dreams are incredibly hard to fight for...but that they are also vital to me, because they were the only things that kept me going....i learned to be there for myself, because in the end, i know im alone.

And i´ll just say that while learning these lessons, it didnt feel good, but now that i have learned them, im happy that i did.

Answer 4

First, I believe we are all born with certain innate characteristics, but childhood does "groom" us to take directions we "might" not otherwise have taken. My early childhood was deprived of social interactions. & this part, was "self learned"--that I created my own world. I suppose one could say that I didn't choose to be lonely, so I was incredibly creative. Did that "make" me a professional artist as an adult?? (Or, was it already there.) I believe I did learn to love nature, & stocism from my dad. My dad, mother & older sister were always at odds with each other, sometimes frighteningly so. I was the automatic peacekeeper. Innate? Did that lead me to psychology?? My mother had a mental disorder, but at times she was full of magic & imagination. My mother's side of the family was straight out of a Tennesee Williams novel. It could make your hair curl! Was all this "good" or "bad?" I wouldn't judge. I like who I am. So I'd have to say that I am who I am, because "parts" of me were there from the beginning, parts learned (on my own), & part due to experiences.

Answer 5

Hi Enki,
I learned in my childhood to observe from the sidelines. I was incredibly shy but the friendships I had in my schooldays were meaningful. I learned responsibility. I was the eldest child and both my parents worked while I looked after my sisters if we weren’t at school. I sometimes feel I’ve always been ‘old’!!! I learned discipline and to rely on myself. To be independent. I learned that if someone said ‘trust me’, they are not necessarily trustworthy. I learned when to remain silent. I learned how to keep a secret but that some secrets are too big a responsibility for any child to keep even if it is the adult me that sympathises with certain parts of the child that I was!
Polly

Answer 6

Wow! What wonderful answers above mine! What an excellent question you have asked, enki!

So what about you, enki? What is your story?

I learned and developed a great curiosity, and an even greater love of reading. These have been the primary influences on who I am today. It was a wonderful experience.

My parents, especially my Mom, always read to us and with us, and provided a home full of books, encyclopedias and dictionaries.

I was the kind of child who always wanted to know "Why?" or "How does this work?". My parents were the kind of people who always seemed to have time to say, "Well, what do YOU think?" or "Why don't we go look that up?" If the information was not available at home - off to the local library we went! :-))

I am very grateful to my parents for this great gift. I don't think I'll EVER have enough time to study all of the things that interest me!

Answer 7

The best lesson that I learned is that you can break the cycle of abuse. I was beat daily as a child. I now have 2 beautiful daughters 12 and 13 years old and when I gave birth to them I swore that they would have a better childhood than I did. I do not spank my girls and they are very well behaved. You can stop the cycle if you chose to.

Collard

Answer 8

I learned, when I was a child, a lot about familial love, and God's love. I learned to pull myself up by my bootstraps, so they say. I learned to work hard and play hard. I learned to develop my imagination.
These are the basis of my life. But my life has changed so much since I was that little tyke, I barely recognize her anymore.
I still have that imagination but instead of playing mermaids and 1800s military games I put that imagination into my novels and poetry.
I still have the same work ethic, just now, instead of putting it forth household chores like hauling wood, I have a real "9 to 5" job.
I still have the same "pull myself up by my bootstraps" mentality, but again, it manifests itself differently nowadays.
When I was a child, if you told me where I'd be right now and how I'd be getting there, I'd have crawled away to the far ends of the earth and found a cave to live in and will a different outcome.

Answer 9

Honesty and self respect. My parents taught me both and thank God I learned both out of a good childhood experience.

Answer 10

I learned how to say 'No' to other people. I used to be a bit of a push-over and other kids could get what they wanted out of me. All they had to do was ask, but I still remember losing something that I really cared about because I couldn't bear to dissappoint others. After that, I was never walked over again.

^_^

Oh, and it was a bad experience. :P