My boyfriend and I are planning to get married. He is in the air force. He thinks its best that we get a pre nup. To me its dumb it's like if he does not trust me. Is there any married couples that sign a pre nup? Is there any one that would sign it or not and why? I love this man and plan to sign it but I feel like if already thinks are marriage is not going to work or that he does not trust me. Please help?
2007-06-13 15:47:43 · 6 answers · asked by jenny21gon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes my husband and I signed one before we got married. We decided we should because yes, we've both been divorced and so we are a bit leery (and knowledgeable) about how ugly things can get, but also because of our age difference. I was 46 he was 55, we both had kids, his parents are alive, etc. And I have enough assets to not want to lose them or have them at risk. We just figured that we came with so much baggage--and that if something happened to one of us--we wanted to be absoloutely certain that our wihses were upheld by our respective families.
If you are young, if you don't have assets, you don't have the baggage.....I dont understand why you need a prenup.
2007-06-13 15:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked for the pre-nup and my husband had a lot more than me. This is ours.
If I inherit anything he is entitled to none of it, same for me if he inherits anything at the time of a divorce. While we are together the inherited money/property is our together.
Any property/assets that are acquired while we are married regardless of the months/years that one of us may not work due to illness/child rearing/mutual choice will be split 50/50 or the option to buy out the other.
In the event of a divorce we agreed to try mediation over assets and child custody before any other method of resolution.
This protects us both in case something should happen. We have agreed on separating terms while we are cool headed and happy not hurt and angry.
This agreement also does one very important thing for a man, it takes away any fear of him losing everything in a divorce. That is a very big fear for a man.
We have every intention of staying together forever but just in case we have already taken care of ourselves and children while in a good place.
You need to come up with a pre-nup together not just sign something that he puts in your face. If you have a penny and he has a million you still need a pre-nup.
Look at this logically and not emotionally, you will be fine!
2007-06-13 16:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would never ever sign one. It's a plan for divorce. Some say you need to protect yourself. Protect yourself from the scheming, money hungry, coniving person you are marrying? Doesn't make sense to me. Either you love and trust or you don't. Besides, why would you want to marry someone like that? I do know of people that sign one and the pre-nup comes up in every fight. We have a symbolic gesture we do at our weddings. The husband to be gives the wife to be a handfull of coins and he says that whatever he has is hers too. She in turn gives them back and vows to protect all they have for their and their children's benefit for the rest of their lives.
2007-06-13 16:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be wanting to protect his retirement which you would get a percentage of depending upon how many years he is in the Air Force during your marriage if you should divorce. My advice...don't sign, by virtue of the fact that you're marrying someone in the military you will have EARNED that percentage of his retirement in the end, don't sign.
2007-06-13 16:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pre nup are made only if one of you own property, or have assets, nothing to do with trusting you
2007-06-13 15:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but now-a-days we should all get pre-nups
2007-06-13 16:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Telly-Of-War 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋