Should i leave my wife if we are financially incompatible?

Question

She just used over 400 text messages at 15 cents each..when i told her we really couldnt afford it...........Im so tired of having to be a father rather than a husband.

she has actually used 450 text messages in two weeks.....

my wife is 27
im 26

Answer 1

now, now. Did you not know this before you got married? You take the good with the bad. You said I Do forever. You do not leave her for a silly thing like this. You go get counseling. Yes she is wrong, possibly crazy. If you go and try and work things out and she just won't compromise then you can talk about divorce. But you gotta give it a good hard try before you just up and leave.

Answer 2

There are plans that you can add to include your text message for one price each month. Does she work? If she does, you both need to divide the bills, if this is your biggest issue. If you get a divorce it will cost alot more than text messages. Make sure you have a serious talk with her about finances before you talk divorce.

Answer 3

Finances are something that you should have been on the same page on since the beginning. If she can't be responsible enough with her text messaging and won't adhere to your budget, you need to talk not divorce. Otherwise cancel text messaging or get a program that allows for unlimited messaging. Every plan has one.

Answer 4

One of the primary reasons for divorce has been listed as "differences in finances" so you wouldn't be alone if you decide to end it. Other things you could try could include turning off text messages or cancellng her phone service or asking her to pay her own phone bill if you didn't want to jump right on the divorce bus.

Answer 5

wow isnt 400 texts an exaggeration, well anyways dont 'father' her, talk to her like a husband would: caring, concered, and yet a bit forceful. you should LEAVE your wife over some bills, but try to make it work if she sees how much this puts you in a bind tell her she'll stop/ cut down atlest.

Answer 6

You should have married someone within your age group. Secondly introduce her to email and yahoo messenger, msn messenger etc. -it's free. Third-you should have married someone your own age who can understand your situation. That's what happens when you want a young wife-you become the daddy -not the husband. Deal with it!!

Answer 7

You need to put your foot down! Nobody wants to be a father/mother in the relationship, you married this woman to be your wife. I would suggest that you sit her down and tell her that if she can't be responsible about her cell phone use that the phone is getting turned off. Also, you need to make sure that you sit down and talk about this "father" thing...because you won't last long like this!

Answer 8

either make her work and pay her own bills or leave.
i say this because i know someone in a similar situation and she COMPLETELY ruined his credit and everything. He could have been making big time money by now had she handled finances right. but she was one of those who would shove bills in a box instead of paying them. im female and i pay my bills first! i dont know why so many women are money dumb like that. **no offense to the smart ladies out there who take care of their sh** **

Answer 9

why dont u just add unlimited text messages to your phone plan........... i mean dang its just text messages, i think there needs to be something a little more wrong for a husband to leave his wife,

Answer 10

When you get married you learn to make the marriage work by talking, going to a therapist, reading self-help book.s

You do not leave....that's immature.