My sister has a gay friend with AIDS who comes over our house all the time. He doesn't know that I know he has the disese. I really don't want him over. When he's here I watch his every move and wipe down everything he touches after he leaves. I know you can't get it by touching and I understand I could be around someone who has it and don't know they have it, but it's just the point that i know he has it. I hate that I feel this way b/c I know anyone can get this disease. But am I wrong for trying to protect myself and being cautious?
2007-06-13 15:18:14 · 11 answers · asked by juicyjuice 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's very dangerous, I don't disagree with having persons with aids in peoples houses or being friends, BUT, I would not like to have them in my house, we have a family to protect, and we cannot always be on a go or 100% on a look out, and if unfortunatelly someone gets it, who's to be responsable? are we to have aids buy someone's irresponsability? I DON'T SO!, so the best thing to do is to have a family meeting, and tell your sister to have him out, or she get out too. This is my advise to you, might not be the best, way, but, a better way may come by. Good luck and be careful!!!!
2007-06-13 15:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a few parts to this question. Firstly, your house is just that, your house, and you can permit or deny entry to anyone. Secondly, I'm a bit concerned that your sister would have betrayed the trust of her friend by telling you this information. Surely if the friend wanted you to know, he would have told you himself. Thirdly, I believe you are going over the top with wiping down everything after he leaves - it's not protecting yourself physically, only mentally. Would the situation be different if he wasn't gay, or if he were a child? Seems like a irrelevant piece of information.
You need to arm yourself with correct information. Look up the World Health Organization or the HIV/Aids websites.
2007-06-13 22:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by bugalug_hills 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a really good friend that was positive (he just passed away right before New years)...
When people came over, he was always very conscience of things. Not paranoid, but he would never eat or drink after anyone or let them eat or drink after him.
He was a nurse, and new that it was a serious thing that we do not know everything about!
And he had to be aware for his own health. He knew that his immune system was weak and that he had to be careful.
You can be aware and responsible, without being ugly. You do have the right to protect yourself. But do not make it a gay issue..make it a safety issue.
2007-06-13 22:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Summertime 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you planning to have unprotected sex with him? share a needle with him? is he giving you a blood transfusion? no? then you are being paranoid and irrational. you wipe down everything he touches? that's ridiculous. if you know you can't catch it, why are you behaving this way? do you also hate gay people, too? and you know that not only do most gay people NOT have AIDS...it's primarily a heterosexually transmitted disease. perhaps you need some counseling...or at educate yourself!
2007-06-14 21:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I understand your fear, but you already know you're not going to get it. (And I do sympathize in a way--everyone thinks I'm a real generous hostess, but I always wipe down that toilet seat before my fat @$$ sits on it again!) Offer everybody paper plates and cups so you can throw them away, if that will make you feel better. But don't be mean to him. What would you do if you knew he had some other disease? Do that.
Also, he probably already knows you're uncomfortable with him.
2007-06-13 22:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say you are being paranoid. but no its not 'wrong' you just want to protect yourself!! so its not wrong...but if u start doing rude things or something...then thats ridiculous and u need to get it undercontrol. aid can only be transferred through blood or some other body fluid. ..notby touch. dont worry..if hes bleeding...take hime outside...and exterminate wherever he was bleeding. lol well just make sure to clean it up...but you shouldnt have to wipe down everything he touches...but its not wrong..until it reaches a point where you start doing rude thing.
2007-06-13 22:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Teenager 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no not wrong just paranoid.only a fool would not take extra precautions.tell your sister how you feel if its your house alone tell her not to bring them over anymore.if its a house you share with your sister you need to talk this out.good luck.sorry about the guy with aids it is a awful disease.
2007-06-13 22:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to educate yourself regarding transmission of this disease and then you wont be so prejudicial regarding this disease or those who have it. God bless****
2007-06-13 22:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
never can be too careful. i would be the same way, forget trying to be nice sorry were talking aids
2007-06-13 22:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by pebbles 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
oh no your fine i would be scared to death as well because you really don't know how you can actually get the disease.
2007-06-13 22:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋