I am pregnant, and I think that I look dang good. I am halfway through my pregnacy I weigh 124lbs, mostly my belly and boobs. Well, everyday for as long as I have known my husband. He sits on the couch and I come and sit on his lap Well today, after we came back from the OB, I was in a good mood and came and sit on his lap. He says," Baby, how much weight did the nurse say you gained?" I just looked at him. Then he said,"I can tell a difference." Would that have offended you??? Then when I got mad he says,"You are beautiful honey, you are just a little thick."
Please Note: DO NOT ATTACK MY HUSBAND!!!
2007-06-13 15:05:58 · 18 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I don't think he meant it in a bad way. I wouldn't have been offended. I would have probably told him that he was being insensitive. But girl I must tell you that you are doing awesome if you're only 124 lbs. My pre-pregnancy weight was 120 and my pregnancy weight gains were 70 lbs, 35 lbs, and 20 lbs respectively. I know you've already had a child before, but I am still going to give you the advice that I have given to all of my pregnant girlfriends. Be very careful about the weight gain, because it is so hard to lose it ( you can see from my 360 how faaaar I am to getting back to my pre-preg weight). But I think its your raging hormones that are making you sensitive. He owes you a foot rub for upsetting you.
2007-06-13 17:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Roni 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course your "thick", you have a baby growing and are supposed to be that way. It's going to get bigger, that's the nature of this process!
Pregnancy can be a really 'sexy' time. Next time, just remind him that he is responsible for that "thickness" at the present time and isn't it the sexiest thing he's ever seen! The whole world can see just want he did! Hubby needs to buff up some and get used to a little extra weight around as soon enough, a little one who gets bigger everyday will be crawling all over him and he will have all that baby stuff to lug around.
You need to gain enough weight to keep yourself and the baby healthy. Even if you where only 110 before, you haven't gained that much.
There are men out there that find a pregnant woman really sexy. My H was quite pleased the first time around and was actually really quite excited about becoming a Dad, like he was proving his manhood or something!
Remind him just how sexy you are carrying his baby! It's starts in the brain.
2007-06-13 22:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by joyh 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personally. Us guys can be dumb heads sometimes. Do you know how many women out there would kill to weigh 124lbs? Like millions. And you are tripping because you way 124 while pregnant? Please. Here's my advice to you. 1) Get over it. 2) Forgive your husband 3) Give birth to a happy healthy baby and 4) Live happily ever after. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. This is the Caveman signing out. Peace and God Bless.
2007-06-13 22:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by cave man 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are pregnant & sensative, and yes you are gaining weight mainly because your are PREGNANT, your suppose to gain weight & it's not a bad thing. Note that a pregnant woman should not even care to mention whether or not she looks "hot". You need to pay attention to the baby & prepare yourselves. Don't get caught up on something that's not even a big deal. Getting mad over something like this is a waste of time.
2007-06-13 22:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go eat some ice cream and feel better. Well of course you've gained weight and "gotten thick", he could have stated that a bit more carefully (or not at all) but men don't always think about things before they say things. You seem to be pretty concerned with weight and size yourself, I think you might be a bit hormonal and touchy.
2007-06-13 22:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by hazel b grand 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LoL. silly men. They just don't understand. Of course he was wrong for saying that. but he just doesn't know these things. To prevent further issues like this you might want to sit him down over dinner or something and explain to him your hormones are out of whack and you are a little sensitive. Let him know that when he says things like this you will prob take it to heart....that's just the price he pays for getting what I am sure is going to be a beautiful baby. Congrats!
2007-06-13 22:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by ambergail1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that is the last thing a woman want to here, but you did gain weight. Cut the man some slack. Next time just bop him upside the head and be done with it.
2007-06-13 22:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by Lady J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, lighten up. Hormones have gotten to you. He sounds like a nice guy who knows you have a little extra baby weight. He didn't say anything offensive but was merely making a statement of fact. Laugh more, take offense less.
2007-06-13 22:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry for the first one.
When my wife was pregnant I always felt left out. Maybe that is his way of trying to get involved.
When she was pregnant, I was stressed out all the time because I was worried about her.
Give more details next time.
2007-06-13 22:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I find no fault with your husband. You're over 30, you already have one child, you've been married over 12+ yrs, you have the id '2fine4u' ?...tells me you're too into yourself and I think he was justified in his answer to you. Be grateful he's the nice guy he is. I doubt most men would have been so 'gentle' with their words. A 'little thick' can mean more than just weight or width.
2007-06-13 22:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Rocky 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋