My man and i have been together for two years..i a m 25 he is 23.. i wanna settle down and get married because i have children. And i want a commitment with the ring! everytime i confront him about it...he gets really mad? should i just stop bringing it up?
2007-06-13 14:43:39 · 11 answers · asked by missymrocks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, stop bringing it up. He has made it clear. He does not want it. You do. You two do not want the same things so it's time to break up and move on, or you will spend years waiting for something that will never happen until your youth is gone.
And don't let him give you the business. When you go to break up, he will start the talking and placating and try to get you back so things can just keep on dragging on the way they are. He wants it that way - all the goodies of marriage without the responsibilities.
You have two choices: either end it now and move on so you are open to someone who wants what you want, or let him talk you into staying and spending more of your life seconds waiting on him for something that will never happen.
2007-06-13 15:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess is you hitched your wagon to the wrong guy. He is so not ready for a commitment but getting mad when you bring it up shows his immaturity. If the two of you can't sit down and discuss your future, your goals, and your children civilly there isn't much hope that you are moving forward and you shouldn't. Getting and staying married is a huge commitment that requires good communication.
2007-06-13 21:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Quit bringing it up and quit having sex. Tell him you are saving yourself for the man who loves you enough to marry you. When the cow quits giving free milk the guy either buys it or goes and gets it somewhere else while someone else who loves the cow for more than milk buys her lock stock and barrel.No man who gets sex without commitment is likely to marry the woman. This is why sex outside of marriage is a bad idea. Its time for YOU to get mad at him treating you like a free prostitute friend with benefits.
2007-06-13 21:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I really think he is too young to be married. He is only 23. You are 25, but women mature a bit younger. Give him time and do not pressure him, you'll end up in divorce.
2007-06-13 21:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I liked Joseph's answer so much I added him to my contacts. He is right.
Although according to psychologists, you are to young to get married. Your core personality does not set until age 25. but to each his own.
I vote get the ring and set a date about a year out. Calling someone your fiance is almost more fun then calling them your husband anyway. ;-)
2007-06-13 22:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by ambergail1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you really be happy knowing you pressured him into marriage? Let it go, you're both young. Let him decide when he's ready to settle down. If you can't accept where he is right now, move on and get what you want.
2007-06-13 22:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy probably will never marry you --move on, brake it off with him and look for someone who will settle down. Both you and your boyfriend are very young--maybe look for someone older than yourself.
2007-06-13 22:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by skyward 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't want to get married, and the two of you aren't a match. Time to look after your kids, and not be involved with your lovelife. Just be a mom.
2007-06-13 23:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would
if he gets mad about it, apparantly the feelings you have are not mutual
i would move on and find someone who DOES want to commit, if that is what i wanted
2007-06-13 21:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Joseph. He is correct.
2007-06-13 21:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by ~Charity~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋