love the world that won't love you back?

Question

Do you ever have days were you wake up and you have to think for a bit to know who you are. your family. youfriends. your boyfriend. and you realize this is it. this is the life i am stuck with. whether i want it or not.

Everyone around is dying or getting divorced. And you think you know somone.. and then they go and break your heart by telling you there secrets... showing you that everyone has their own demons they're battling.

Everyone is just so selfish. we forget that everyone else is going through something similar and just as painful if not worse. and we all walk around covering it up. Putting on a smile just to make it through the day because it doesnt seem socially acceptable to burst into tears and scream your lungs out in the middle of the street.

So we live the life we're stuck with and we make the most of it and just the fact that you can go though each day without actually killing yourself is reason enough to celebrate.


thoughts anyone?

Answer 1

Girl, you sound really depressed. I don't mean to offend you or anything but you should see a therapist. Sometimes if there's someone to just let everything out on, you feel a whole lot better. Why do you think everybody seems to be doing that to you? Besides that they love and trust you enough to share it with you. But they really don't need to be telling you all their personal information anyway, that's what therapists are for, and there's nothing wrong with seeing them. I actually think more people should have one. Everyone has their own problems, cause life is not all peaches and bananas. If you aren't happy with your life that badly, make some changes to spice it up. Go dancing or something. Watch a funny movie with someone. Take a vacation for goodness sakes. Meet new people who inspire you. Don't let the bad things in life bring you down, cause there is always good things around the corner. This may be the life your stuck with, but you will always have the power to make it better.

Answer 2

You should see God in everyone and everything, that is true. God is in every cell and every person/animal/thing is of The Creation. The love of another person is a physical connection, it is mental- it is almost something you can grasp or at least you can grasp the person. That is the difference, other people are like you, they are real to you and they reciprocate your love as a means of instant gratification. You relate to your fellow beings, you love them deeply. To love God is to have patience and faith and belief, its not immediately gratifying always and there is a loneliness that can only be filled by sharing our questions and desires with others! God doesn't talk back to you, he doesn't hold your hand or kiss your mouth. Still- loving God isn't so removed from loving other humans, you love them and you can see God in them. I personally love God as the great powerful infathomably fantastic creator of all that is good and evil and beautiful and abstract and ( I could go on...) because I love his Creations, I love the mystery of Earth and its inhabitants and all the intricacies of existence. I marvel at being and love the life I am part of, and cannot help but adore its origin.

Answer 3

Yours are the very thoughts that got me to give up a brand new profession decades ago, and go into counseling as a profession. Of course, that meant I had to return to college and get another graduate degree, but, it was what I wanted to do. I wish, though, that someone who understood those feelings had been around me then, then maybe I would've stayed with the new profession I had just finished graduate school for and loved the idea of doing, but, that understanding wasn't there sufficiently for me, so, I went to school again, to be a counselor. It's a bad dose of reality you're experiencing, and it's "bad" because it takes you out of whatever defense systems you have built up to make it in your life, and shows you "the other side of the coin", reality - blunt and cold. I know how you feel, truly, and I wish I could assure you some good counseling, but, since I'm retired now after some 20+ years, I'm afraid I've let my licenses go and can only offer you my empathy and affection, if the latter is not too strong a word to use here. If you do decide to go find a counselor, remember that you're the one choosing who to talk to, and no counselor has "the final word", not even me, so you choose one who you feel good with, and remember, they are bound by laws of confidentiality to keep your secrets and emotions there in the office with them. I can only wish you the best and God's Blessings upon you. God Bless you. You're gonna do just fine. Trust me on this one. :-))

Answer 4

You know the world does not love anyone - it's a thing. People love people. My experience is that people seek approval for the 'good' that they do from only certain people and ignore the many people who appreciate what they have done. Sometimes people do things for people who cannot show their appeciation. What do we say about someone who gives their life for their fellow soldiers? They don't live to see the appreciation other people have. Thank God there are people who love even in the face of hate or apathy at the time they do what they do, those people are self-actualized.

Answer 5

I'm 14. And, honestly, I pat my self on the back every day I make it through with out killing myself. My bestfriend of 7 years died last year. And, when she died, something died inside of me. I walk around smiling. Happy. Laughing. Everyone thinks I'm just fine. They think I'm going to be able to make it. They do not realize that I cry every night. That I feel lost. That I hate how I have to live the rest of my life with out my bestfriend in the whole entire world. Everyone has a battle that their fighting behind closed doors. People are just selfish, and think about themselfs, and not other people. I'm guilty of it. Everyone is. We live in a harsh world. All of my friends have stabbed me in the back. But, when my bestfriend was alive I was so confident, I felt like I could take on the world, because I knew know matter what she had my back and I had hers. Now, I'm on my own. I have to do everything on my own. And, I don't know how much longer I can continue fighting this battle.

Answer 6

If you are stuck in this life of yours and are not happy then should you not start making some sacrifices to make your life better? You only get out of this life what you put into it. If you learn to be content sometimes and not worry about the rat race things also seem better and you have more time for you.

Answer 7

i understand. i find it very hard to live these days. everyone expects me to give up my dreams and what i expect of peope b/c they aren't realistic...i have to accept reality and make the most of it. well what if reality sucks and the things that are supposed to make me feel good have no effect on me? i don't want to settle for a mundane life and all the time be thinking i wish this i wish that...i don't want to be wishing all the time. i don't want to just have dreams and fantasies. i want real things in my life that matter.

Answer 8

Yes, I know. -_- I hear you.

And I'm actually feeling the pain from the other side of the street. I've become the one people *avoid* these days*, the fellow who can't get his own friends to *show up* and *be proper friends*. And yeah, I get it, most folks don't want to be around some depressed "old fart" who is dirt poor and mostly *made of* problems....

But still. I'm human. I get lonely too, need people too, should have at least *one* good friend to my name too. As in, someone who is there, physically with me. Not to disregard anyone I know online...though many of those folks I have known for some time in Instant Messenger have also failed to *show up and be friends*.

And I hear you. I go through the same process every day, keeping a lid on my feelings out in public because it beats getting in trouble for them--because locally folks *know* I "have issues" which means if the police show up, they won't talk, they will *shoot*, using guns and/or tasers until I am dead and everyone *else* is horrified into the Official Numb Silence again. That is just the way America works these days:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070611/ap_on_re_us/taser_deaths

Or I will call 9-1-1 for help and be totally ignored:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070613/ap_on_re_us/hospital_death_probe;_ylt=AuOeY99hrSE17uyUzSjJSoZH2ocA

in much the same manner that the local Crisis Line refuses to work for me now, and in much the same manner that the local *Intake Office* at the local mental health center is impossible to contact by telephone in a rational manner.

So. Yeah. Not to be a burden or anything, I know you are having a lot on your mind, some of it needlessly too. I am just saying:

--If you see fit to get professional help, *pray* you are rich and lucky enough to be allowed to do it right. Get a good doctor *and* a good therapist at the same time. Find medication that works for you (in spite of the *excessive* amount of trial and error tolerated by the current system) and also counseling as well, as you will *NEED* both. At one and the same time even.

And also understand that this solves *exactly Half* of the problem at best. You can correct for your state of mind, do it over and over again but if the *actual real-life circumstances* of your real life do not improve, you won't get better. At best you will get "stabilized", meaning life will be tolerable so long as you remain *dependent* on the system, and *captive* to its politically-driven whims.

And this is if you get lucky and *have money* to burn on this. Many *Many* people do not.

--Understand that if you see fit to work on things from the "material circumstances" side, that if you "go out, do more, get better friends, work for change", that you will have to pick your fights carefully and work gradually or people in general will hate you and see you as a threat. A lot of people, too many of them, have become rich and profiteered off of the ruin and misery of others--debt collection is a profitable example of a Parasitic Business model that self-sustains. I daresay much of the HMO-driven side of the Mental Health industry (including the Drug Companies) is much the same sort of thing.

So.....do what you can, but do so prudently. Volunteer where you think it will matter *the most*. Donate to those charities *you trust*. Boycott only the biggest and most flagrant targets--I hear Wal-Mart works in this regard. Make new, better friends by all means but treat the old ones you are leaving behind with enough kindness to keep matters from being worse. Think before you act and make sure you don't *cause* more problems than you solve when you do act.

And in general....realize that if you want to find something, you have to look for it.

Meaning, to some extent you *do* have to give away that which you seek. You have to at least demonstrate a capacity to love before you can *register* as someone's *beloved* to the minds and senses of others.

If you don't know how to love *yourself* and to care for *yourself*, your efforts to love and care for others will be in vain because you won't know what you're doing, and won't be of any good to anyone else. And yes, I get it that it is a vicious cycle: this is where the prudence, the calculation comes in to play. Understanding that you have to give a little means you know *how little* to give before you move on to more fertile ground.

If that makes sense. I am sorry to go on so...

Thanks for your time. -_- Email me if you'd like to know more.

Answer 9

One doesn't love for reciprocation, or approval, or reward. One loves for the sheer feeling of loving. That is the reward. So it doesn't matter if the love isn't returned, or if nobody around you loves. Just love.

Answer 10

True love loves for the sake of loving and not because it gets love in return.