am i sexually abnormal ?

Question

i am 36 ( going to be 37 on june 17 th ) and a bachelor and very busy . sometimes a lot of my time is also taken up by coping with blues and why,s and why nots . i have not had sex for 4 years since i have sex only when i am attracted to someone and no one night stands for me and i will not go to a hooker . from purely physical and mental angle is that abnormal ? in fact between 18 and 36 i have had two year long relationships with only 2 women and been sexually inactive for the rest of time .

Answer 1

I don't think that you are abnormal as you described it. Different strokes for different folks. Don't worry. Live your life. Let whatever happens, happen. Be open to new experiences. All goods things come to he who waits and takes advatage of his opportunities. Don't out-think yourself.

Answer 2

You are not abnormal in your sexual life, there are some morals which you follow and most people will think you are prude. They will have to accept the fact that you want more out of you relationships then sex and emotional outlets, it seems to me.

Feel good about yourself, there are standards which you will follow and want more out of life, should anyone think that you have not had sex in 4 years, 10 years or 20, and you are not doing anything right or need to have sex every year or girlfriend, they need to remember that not all life is physical but often meaningful.

You seem to have done ok and are working for more important things.

Good luck in what you do next.

Answer 3

This really is a personal introspective question. No one can have a right or wrong answer to this. Not for strangers to answer. At best, we can only say that this is quite abnormal for human nature however it is not totally wierd or unheard of. There are a lot of personalities that go to a long stretch without having intimate relations due to either their profession (like priests, Dalai Lama, Monks etc) or personal preference where your body and soul do not find it necessary to cohabit to fulfill your living. In such a case, you need not worry or feel stressed out and let life take its course. As a word of caution you will find yourself in a trap when u get older and need or want to and will not be able to. Ever think of this scenario ??

Answer 4

I would say no it's not abnormal. Sex is often associated with the physical but it's sooooo much better when it's associated with the emotional, hence the difference between sex an love-making

Answer 5

Just to let you know what i think, your' a precious-one-of-a-kind. If only all men were like you - treasure having sex with the person they truly love, there would not be so many broken families and broken hearts. Insecurities would not even exist. Stay the way you are, when you've find the right person, she'd love you to the very bits.
I know i would :)

Answer 6

my opinion, not abnormal. Just different. You don't have sex unless the person means alot to you and that's great but after four years don't you have some wants and needs? Good luck with ah...whatever you would need luck for. feeling more secure or something like that.

Answer 7

Yes. You are. Sorry, but its the truth. You should take a class or see a therapist. either with, or without your husband. Parents walking around nude,&you masturbating at SUCH a young age will be a result. &also having sex abnormaly when you were a young teen. Hope I could help.!

Answer 8

well i mean personally not having sex at all is a good thing less chance of STD but yes it is abnormal to not have sex for 4 years O_O

Answer 9

In a world mostly populated by those with incredibly bad taste, any discriminating person would feel ostracized before long.

Answer 10

Nope, unless you are driving the women from your life for some reason. You may not be typical, but you are not abnormal.