I have been married to my highschool sweatheart for 3 years we was both young when we married.I am 24 and he is 27 I love this man with all my heart we get along at times we have fun with each other the marrigae is not dull he has his moments sometimes we fight(but all couple do he not this bad man, but I have had my eyes on someone else I am obess with this other man and this other man is not a good man for me b/c he has been in trouble with the law he is on the run for the police as I speak, I have tried everything to contact him and I know I shouldn't do that this b/c this man is not good for me he has nothing to offer me, and I can't share this with my husband b/c he will never forgive me b/c he know this man, but I feel that there nobody to talk to. I find myself rinding by his house I just don't know what to do I feel that I can't seem to let this other man go I keep telling myself to forget him but I can't .I know you may say I crazy but I need serious advice.
2007-06-13 14:06:46 · 15 answers · asked by Lady J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seriously,
It sounds like (but I don't live with you guys) you have a fairly stable marriage, so don't leave your husband, especially for a guy who is in trouble with the law. You don't need to settle for that, especially because it's just physical. You are not getting any younger (not to imply that I think you're old or anything), and the fact of the matter is, you need to be with someone who enhances your life and makes it better, not worse or harder. Trust me, after the infatuation wears off and your attraction diminishes for this other man, you will have nothing to show for it, except a hide-away for him when he's running from the cops.
Trust me, focus your attention on making your marriage work, and forget about this other man. He'll bring you nothing but pain for 30 seconds of joy.
2007-06-13 14:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Impavidsoul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its that your attracted to the "bad boy" part of this other guy. I am happily married and have been for 7 years but I married exactly the opposite of the guys I have dated. I dont think taht is a bad thing at all. I still love the bad boy in some men, like Vin diesl in Fast and Furious type deal but yet I also know I have it good at home and its just a fantasy that your in love with. Maybe there is part of you still that wants to be a "wild child" and that is all it is. The fact that your life is routine and you want the adventure of the bad boy. the_snuggler1 on messenger if you wanna ad me to chat some more.
2007-06-13 14:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by the_snuggler1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you are a member of the crazy women club. A big club though. Tell a big story about how you love your husband just to justify the evil thoughts and actions of another man. Of course, we can't use logic on women.
You watch too many movies.
2007-06-13 14:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do sound crazy. Snap back to reality here. You describe a great marriage and go on to talk about stalking some maniac. I think maybe your marriage isn't what you think it is and you are trying to fill some void. You should be stalking a therapist to figure yourself out, not a bad boy who's probably headed back to prison.
2007-06-13 14:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
their is nothing wrong with being attracted 2 someone else.u'r human-.just don't tell u'r husband about it and ruin u'r relationship;the reality is some men are like fire u get too close u get burnt so the best way is to enjoy the heat from a distance .......!quit feelin guilty about it.................and..u'r not his saviour- if he is in trouble with the law that means he's got 99 problems and u ain't one of them.stop ridin by his house some people call that stalking...accept u had a good tyme and u like him... the end.
2007-06-13 14:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by sherry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If hes not good for you and cant offer you anything, why jeopodize your life and marriage for nothing. Say you get with him, you have your fun, then your husband finds out, then what. You'll end up with neither one of them and even more depressed. Don't welcome drama into your life if you're not prepared to live with the consequences.
2007-06-13 14:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by Elle777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Advice, hmmm call your parents and ask them how they did so a wonderful job to raise such a "classy" woman with great morals. Proud they must be......Im sure if it does not work out with the convict there are other married men out there and boy that Scott Peterson what a hunk, right up your alley....
2007-06-13 14:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by Christylynn P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't give up a good marraige for an obsession...you will regret it forever. don't act on the other guy and your feelings for him will fade eventually. i know it is hard, but trust me the pain you will feel getting over a guy your obsessed with is far less then the pain you will feel getting over a guy you love.
2007-06-13 14:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by VW Girl :o) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either forget him OR you divorce your husband. It is YOUR choice. Use your head NOT your hormone induced fantasy to make a decision.
2007-06-13 15:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this question.
No one here is going to tell you this is OK and support your behavior.
You are an adult now. Stop this immediately.
2007-06-13 14:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋