I can't help being a very shy, considerate, and caring person. I hate myself for being like this, because I' m always the one who ends up with my feelings hurt. Sometimes I wish I’m a bad person. Being bad is an advantage.
2007-06-13 13:47:22 · 23 answers · asked by ocean 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No, being bad is not an advantage, being a bit tougher is an advantage. You need to love and care for yourself and give to yourself as much as you do to others. Learn to say "No", its difficult but you feel so much better when you have done it a few times and I think people learn to stop taking advantage once they realize you are not always on hand for them to use and abuse.Tell yourself that you are a good person and if people don't see this it is their misfortune. Good luck.
2007-06-21 03:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, don't ever change yourself for anything or anyone - especially if you are a considerate and caring person! I think that what you need to learn to do is to build boundaries around things that are sensitive and close to you. Protect your vulnerable and soft sides carefully so others don't take advantage of your caring and considerate self. Take small steps and build your confidence and boundaries along the way. Good luck and continue being nice. We need more nice people in this world...
2007-06-20 18:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bad is a blessing in disguise. It's also exhausting.
You want to be inconsiderate? Go kick someone's dog.
You want the respect and admiration of just about anybody who meets you? Stay right where you are and keep being beautiful. People are inconsiderate and overly-assertive because they couldn't figure out how to be like you, so they created a way to try to be 'better' than you by default.
They'll never be your equal, no matter how much they hurt you. And after the hurt feelings pass, you're back to being happy, and they are back to being envious.
Don't change. Please.
2007-06-19 12:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by drizitche 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really want to be a bad person, but maybe you are just resentful that you feel being good isn't taking you anywhere. You need to practice some assertiveness training. Pretend you are in a restaraunt, and someone brings you a steak done medium rare when you asked for well done. Pretend you are sending it back. Act out this skit with another person. Practice makes perfect.
2007-06-20 12:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by sandstone901 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, sometimes i feel like me being too nice of a person makes people take advantage of me too. You dont gotta be bad to have an advantage. Just know your limits in being too nice cause it IS bad to be passive. Be sure to stand up for yourself when you know someone is doing TOO MUCH or else they'll keep doing the same things to you over and over again.
And i know this is corny but if you're a pisces then you're REALLLY meant to be that way.
2007-06-19 23:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way, that's why I've lost tons of money and wasted so much time worrying about uneccessary things that I'll never be able to change. Guys who use and abuse and have everything also have girls' attention and people like us get left to mingle. But don't ever wish you were an inconsiderate, careless person. They'll get theirs in the end.
2007-06-19 13:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by jldude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you just need some healthy boundaries. The world needs more considerate and caring people!
One place to start is if you are getting your feelings hurt all the time, you might be trusting other people with your feelings who simply do not deserve that kind of trust!
2007-06-13 14:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by Alien Brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you wanting to be assertive, which by the way is NOT a "bad" way to be! But, why would you want to be inconsiderate? Do you want people to hate you?
Write down all the good qualities you think you'd like to have, then work on creating your new image. Sounds to me like you're already off to a good start!
2007-06-20 22:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by Tessa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing to change is the shyness .... being considerate and assertive aren't bad qualities... shyness means you don't have self-confidence.... this is something that's hard to work on, but, definitely fix-able... setting boundaries (and not letting people take advantage of you) is something you must learn as you grow.... when you realize that your happiness is just as important as the other's.... that you must take care of yourself to truly appreciate and take care of someone else, then you are on the path to self-discovery... read self-help books, assert yourself more (in a positive manner), join a book club or other type group of something that you are passionate about... this is your life... only you can write the pages it becomes!
2007-06-20 11:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what i use to be like you and i use to get my feeling hurt all the time by stupid kids and until one day that i said I'm stop and put my feet down I'm not getting hurt any more so u just have to get mad and get even u need 2 cause if u don't ull be step on and u don't want that I'm person that I'm nice and when u step on me once ur gone
so just thing u could do it and i know u can u just need alittle help and ur ready to be a B""""" so just think you could and go for it good luck.....
2007-06-21 09:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by yunets305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋