ok so i got married this march. my husband had been asking me for awhile but i kept saying i wanted to put it off until he got his stuff together. he hurt his back 3 years ago and it has gotten progressivly worse. i know he is in som e serious pain he cannot stand longer than 15 mins without almost collapsing. he is on workmans comp but is not getting compensated the way he should. meanwhile im paying all the bills im only 25 so i dont make that much but lets just say i pay about 1200 in bills a month and i only make 1800 a month. i dont feel liek he is doing everything he should to get better. he has a car but it needs to be repaired and he has not gotten it fixed in almost a year and has to drive my car that i pay for. he always has an excuse why he cant fix it. oi dont know is my husband worht waiting for or should i just move on?
2007-06-13 13:36:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless your husband commits adultery, you have no right to move on. Do you remember your wedding vows? For better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer until death do us part. You divorce him for any other reason, you will be committing adultery with any one else you go with and you will cause them to commit adultery too. If you want to know the rules of marriage read the Holy Bible. Get a New Living translation that is written in plain modern English.
2007-06-13 17:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you should have thought of that before you married him. Second I bet hes depressed thats probably why he isnt doing much. Third he probably doesnt know what he should be doing about workmans comp. I would suggest you set up an appointment witha psychcologist for him and make him go it will do wonders for him if the doc is good. Then I would have him see a lawyer. fourth he probably doesnt want to spend a great deal of money to fix his car because he isnt making that much and he doesnt want to have to ask you to pay more of the bills cause he had to get his car fixed. You are a team now dont look at it as your money. Its suppose to be "our" money
2007-06-13 20:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a question only you can answer. You should have never married him if you had doubts-I made that same mistake. The best you can do is ride this out and put forth all that you have. If the time comes for you to walk out from the marriage then you will feel good about the effort you put in. The more you try may just inspire him to try more too. Understanding and patience can lead you to good things sometimes. Unfortunately only God knows if this is your case.
2007-06-13 20:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by freshstart_newbeginning 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See my response to the same question you posted just 30 minutes ago.
Guess my answer was so good it should be worth 4 points......at least I've earned 4 points by reading the same freakin' question twice within a 30 minute span.
Cmon, grow up, DEAL!
The posters on this site are getting progressively lame.....
2007-06-13 20:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Presumably, you knew about his problems, when you accepted his marriage proposal. Although he may be able to do more to improve your situation financially, he may need some positive direction,on the way to do this. Marriage is not a state of affairs, whereby, if you don't like it, you can "pick up your marbles and go home."
2007-06-13 20:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you decide to get married to someone or decide to share your life with them for the long haul, then you agree to deal with the ups and downs. While he may not be doing all that he can to help the situation you have to let him know how you feel. It sounds like maybe you were forced to get married...maybe you should deal with that.
2007-06-13 20:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by Diva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well: you haven't got any kids, so whether or not you move on: the decision is purely yours. You sound unhappy. Do you wish to dump him for the possibility for more happiness? Or was money the only consideration when you married him. It sounds like it.
2007-06-13 20:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know when my old lady want to put the scare into me she tells me its over and leaves for a few days and i'll tell ya i give into any of her demands when she shows up again (thats how she got me to marry her in the first place) yup its ultimatum time :(
2007-06-13 20:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kronic306 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should give him an option to either get his self together or you are going to leave him I say atleast give him a warning and a chance.
2007-06-13 20:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You are very selfish. He isn't a boyfriend, he's your husband...I can't believe you are considering dumping him in his time of need. What were your vows? You need counseling you are starting to resent him for something he has no control over.
2007-06-13 20:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by BossLady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋