Okay, I have a friend who is a great friend, unless you are working on the same project as her. If you are then she keeps on coming up with reasons why her part of the project is not done, or if you are working to find an answer together, never seems to talk to you. Sometimes it can be very frustrating, expecally if you work really hard on your part, but get a bad grade because she didn't work on her part. What can I do? I still want her as a friend, just not a project partner and I feel guilty if she wants to be with me, but I say I want to be with someone else.
2007-06-13 13:28:35 · 8 answers · asked by Lady Water 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
can u read minds?? the same thing happened to me!! i know how u feel. if she asks to be your partner just say that someone else asked you already, or just tell her that she needs to do her part if she wants to be your partner.
2007-06-13 13:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she asks you to work on a project with her, tell her you're working with someone else. If you don't want to lie to her, ask someone else first before she asks you. If this doesn't work, talk to her. Tell her that you don't want to get in trouble for the project not getting done just because she won't do her part. She's being selfish and not thinking about your feelings OR your grades.
2007-06-13 13:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you have a project, you should tell her that you will only be her partner if she will do her fair share of the work. Be nice about it, but tell her that you feel like she doesn't do her share of the work and that you really want her to. If she does do her share of the work, then the problem is solved. If you parnter up with her again after that but she dosn't do her share of the work, then you should try it again, but try reminding her at the beginning of the assingnet and all through it that she needs to do her share of the work. Now, if she doesn't do her share of the work the first time that you try and be her parner and reminding her, then next time she asks to be your partner tell her that you want to be with someone else because you don't think she does enough work. When she gets mad at you for not being her partner (which you know she will) don't feel like it's your fault. It is her fault for not doing her share of the work. After about a day of her giving you the cold sholder and such, you should talk to her and tell her that you will be her parnter on the next project, but only if she promises to do her share of the work. If she still doesn't the next time, then you should just stick to finding other partners.
2007-06-13 13:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by Bobert R. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop her as a project partner. I've worked with lots of folks, I get alnog with, but who do terrible work. (Same has been said of me from time to time). Then there are those, who simply deliver, time and time again, but might not be the best of friends. Whether work or school you are graded by your success. Don't be dragged down by someone just because of friendship. You can still be friends, just not partners.
2007-06-13 13:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by No one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would make it clear to her someway that I am better off as a non-aced friend. I would take the blame on to me slightly (for the heck of being with her).. and make a silly reason up.. (i get little competetive when i am on a project with someone.. or i get little bossy when i am doing a project with someone) and never be on any project with her...
Hope that helps..
2007-06-13 13:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey. The friend really isn't being a friend. If so, they would be pulling their own weight in your projects. If you want to remain friends with this person do one of two things. Try to talk to your friend about again or don't ever work in a group with this person again. Problem solved.
2007-06-13 13:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by african.violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU should have had your parents speak to the teacher and explained the situation and asked you not be punished for the others refusal to work. This is tricky a behavioral problem the girl must address in therapy,. She has problems if she hurts you. I doubt if she's really a friend.
2007-06-13 13:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hopefully your teacher or whatever will notice that you are doing your parts, and your friend didnt do theirs. i hate when my friends do that to me. it sucks. let your teacher know that your friend wont do anything.
2007-06-13 13:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋