Why am I so insecure?

Question

***IF YOU'RE JUST GONNA TAUNT ME OR CALL ME EMO, GO PICK ON SOMEONE ELSE***
Ever since the beginning of this school year (I'm a sophomore, btw) I've been really upset with myself. Over everything. I have absolutely 0 self-confidence. To the point where I rarely leave my house for anything except school, and only speak when spoken to. This used to be because I was really overweight and considered myself too unattractive to be one of "the group". Though I'm now a healthy weight, though I still consider myself, well, ugly. But I think this is only one of the causes for my self-abhorance.

There's something seriously wrong with me. Up until the end of freshman year I was always fun, loud, energetic. But now it's like everything is caving in all at once. To make matters worse, my 0 confidence seems to be rather obvious just by looking at me, seeing as how I'm now the school's verbal-punching bag. Needless to say, that doesn't help.

What in the world should I do?

Answer 1

I'm sorry you feel like this.
Read up about 'borderline personality disorder' it may help you to realise that other people on this earth feel like you do.

Symptoms include:
- low self-confidence
- Self-harming behaviour
- Social anxiety
- Shyness
- Depression
- Lack of understanding of own self
- Reclusiveness.

Anyway, I suffer from this...it sucks...I just hope that you meet your soul-mate. They will help you through life.

Answer 2

You actually seem to know alot of the answers to the question you present. But don't get angry, Try to have a positive outlook. You already lost weight so try and lose some more. Who says your ugly? So far only you have said that. And what is ugly? Its what you think that counts. Remember if your around people and you have a negative attitude they will draw upon that. So try to be more fun to be around. Your still young and you have the power within you to change any thing. So don't give up or do anything crazy. It only gets better (that's up to you ). Also try to solve this one step at a time. It works I was there. Hope we hear some good feedback from you. Be cool.

Answer 3

Ten years from now you will look back on your time as a teenager and wonder how you got through it all. The fact is that you will get through it, and you'll do so with intelligence. One day at a time got you to where you are, and one day at a time will move you toward other states of being and ways of thinking. Everything is a cycle, a phase, a season. Just as you are dissatisfied with things now, you will be more pleased in times to come. You are loved and protected. Be.

Answer 4

i know you are gonna roll your eyes at this, but everyone goes through **** like this growing up! if you are 15-16 years old, you have a long way to go! i know life doesnt seem like it will change much but trust me, your world will change a lot in five years. cheer up! stuff you can do now, just keep yourself active and maybe work out, do sports, hang out with friends. think positive and dont be too hard on yourself!

Answer 5

people pick on those who seems to have not much of self confidence. you should tell urself that u love urself. you really need to love yourself to get others to love u too. if u think you really cant deal w those ppl, consider moving and start fresh!

Answer 6

keep working out
Make friends and to that think with your Head not your heart which is fragile right now
Once you get the whole of it, try to be as energetic again and i will all come across

Answer 7

Start working out, taking martial arts or school wrestling and start whooping some assss

Answer 8

you need to seek professional help...go to your school counselor and start from there. he/she should be able to help you ... you are a good person .everyone is worthwhile. go to your counselor tomorrow and talk to him or her about your feelings.

Answer 9

Get your self esteem back. get your self out of your rut and have fun. stop being insecure. get your confidence back .