Why Are Black Guys So Horny & Aggressive?

Question

No wonder I've been a virgin for so long. I don't feel safe among my neighborhood b.c a bunch of black guys approach me for being a attractive light skinned female, but their style & how they approach me are not appealing at all. They make me uncomfortable. I am biracial. My mom's white & my dads black. I have never had a very great relationship w/ my father b.c I've witness how bad he treated my mom; causing her to be stressed out at times. Plus he'd abused us due to alcoholism & drugs over the years. I don't want to live w/ a man like that & I've noticed almost all black guys are like that. I have had a minium few of black female friends, but if they weren't friends, 85% of the time they quickly become jealous of me. I have had MANY MANY jealous black girls since I started school basically! I had major anxiety/depression since 9 & I soley blame my father, jealousy, & sexual harassment as cause. All three involving blacks. I feel like I don't fit in this culture. So I want to move.

Answer 1

Wow, you sound just like me a few years ago! I'm 25 now, but when I was your age (i'm guessing you to be a teenager) I had many of the same issues. I am also an attractive mixed race women with family issues much like what you've dealt with and friend issues like what you've gone through.

Girl, I used to run away when black guys would approach me. I grew up in kind of a bad neighborhood. It would happen so often, and sometimes still does. It's like I couldn't go to the gas station without being hit on. It was rare that a black (or any) guy would approach me in an intelligent, friendly manner and actually show some curiosity about my personality and intelligence. In fact, many of my mixed race girlfriends have had many of these same experiences that you and I've gone through.

My advice to you is to try really hard not to generalize your experiences with black people. Just because you've had some really negative experiences with black men does not mean all black men are bad. Some of them are, and I promise you this, great. Same is true for black women. Some may be catty and immature, but many are great. Some of my best friends are black men and women and I'd be missing out on so much if I didn't give people a fair chance.

I know it's really hard, but try to be open minded. And definitely don't feel guilty if not all your friends are black. I have a good mix of both and I think that's healthy. Anyway, if you want to, feel free to e-mail me with any questions. I will try to help you out if I can. Good luck, girl!

Answer 2

Black Horny

Answer 3

Well I cant imagine why you would have a hard time finding articulate ****** to hold a conversation with.I do believe however that your ailments of confusion and anxiety are a direct results of being born a hybrid.You see in the animal world when two species of different origins and genetic make-up create a crossbreed often times that animal will be aggressive, antisocial, and suffer from a range of mental and physical side effects many times the animals are put down because of the ammount of possible repercussions. The best thing you could do is never breed yourself and stop any more harm to a both caucazoid and ******* gene pools whom are already in dire straights. You have a reason to br upset with both your mother and father for 1: both your parents Racemixing 2.Your father for gene-hijacking .he probably thought he wae doung a positive thing for his people by creating a mix-breed .lighter skin making his genetic bloodline more attractive. And probably with a higher IQ Rob DC zoo

Answer 4

You sure do have an exaggerated and high opinion of yourself. I don't know what kind of people you've been hanging around, but all black guys are not "horny and aggressive" and I know plenty of black girls who would not feel like being jealous of you simply because of your racial background.

I feel sorry for you that you came from a family in which your father had alcohol problems and drug abuse issues, etc, that's the way the chips fall sometimes. Does that mean every black man is the world is like him? No. My father, (a..hark..BLACK man!!) bends over backwards to take care of his family and he doesn't do drugs, and he's not an alcoholic, neither has he ever EVER laid a hand on us.

Now, I don't know where you come from, but you sound young, and it sounds like you haven't been out of your area much. I know there are little pockets of areas in the United States (which I'm assuming that's where you are) that are stuck in that "light skinned = good, mixed = good, dark skinned = bad" mentality, because I grew up in one of those areas, and I'm a light skinned multicultural female, and I've experienced what you are experience.

My suggestion to you would be to endeavor to move to some larger city so you can get a fuller and broader scope of races, and how little it matters to anyone that you are "mixed" and deal with decent respectable more adult-acting people than you are dealing with wherever you are now.

I hope all goes well with you.

Answer 5

Hi Pallas,
Not all black guys are aggressive and sometimes when they do that is because the don't know no other way to approach you, and you can't help the way you look and I know from experience that if you look good women are jealous and men really don't know how to approach you,its always one that is watching you very close and he's quiet and you would never know so look around and see who's really watching you.
And stay a virgin until the right one comes along and he might be right under you nose.

Answer 6

all mixed women who have white mothers feel this way, at least 85% of the time....

no I am being sarcastic with the statistics but actually I have noticed that

look, there are nice black men..no, you don't have to be with one...

you don't have any clue about racism and how it has affected our culture

your mother should have taught you this

When miscegenation (race mixing) first began there was a divide in our people (this happened first during slavery). Lighter skinned people were always treated better by whites. It made other blacks jealous and the lighter skinned ones felt
better than the other blacks.

In today's world, light skinned females are most desired and get the most attention. Many black women have insecurities about their looks (rightfully so in a world that celebrates thin, blonde, blue eyed women and the further you get away from that there is trouble).

Many black men have issues with their families, and lives, just like black women that have been handed down for years.

It is like Chris Rock said...black people have only JUST begun to get therapy.

Some black men seek solace in alcohol.

I have known many black men who had problems and married white women and got divorces. Some times black men take their problems out on their wives and girlfriends (black women too) but it is not just BLACK MEN but many white, Latino, and Asian men who have lots of UNRESOLVED PROBLEMS.

If you are having so many problems with black people, you should probably move....let me say that you would probably have problems living in a white area too.

My grandmother is filipina and my father would be biracial to you (he considers himself black and is not a sellout). And he didn't have the issues you have.

My mother looks white and while she has had to deal with color issues, she does not hate black people.

You can move soon and hope that everyone will be better and in fact I hope you do.

Not all black people are evil and maybe one day you will understand that.

But you are being as racist as a white person by not understanding our people's history. The problems we have all have origins. They didn't pop up out of nowhere.

Answer 7

Yea stop generalizing all blacks. I am a black man and I am a very respectful person, and I do catch hell for being that way from other blacks. But I feel your pain. It seems to me that the black man in america has lost all respect for women. White men do the same thing it's just that they approach it differently than black men. But you should stand up for yourself and maybe tell these black men that you don't appreciate their behavior.

Answer 8

All guys can be as equally horny and aggressive. Color and race have nothing to do with how somebody acts.

I know plenty of African Americans who treat me respectfully and are extremely kind.

You're probably just in a bad area, so stop stereotyping.

Answer 9

Too many ppl passing off the black horny thing, its true, all they think of is muhdik and grab it in front of crowds.

Answer 10

1) Not all black guys are like that. I would never talk to any of my guy friends (black or not) if they disrespected women like that and I sure wouldn't be hearing any of that crap from my brothers.
2) Why would only black girls be jealous of you? Chances are that either other races are jealous too and you don't notice or that your preconceived notions about black people cause you to push them away.
3) Trust me, I have white friends with bad parents and it is not just because you dad is black.