One time, after giving me a blacklight poster and some other '70s-era stuff to decorate my bedroom with, my dad admitted that he is living through me. What does this mean?
2007-06-13 12:22:32 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
"To live through" another person is to enjoy life by getting pleasure from other's experiences.
It has been said that there are three things to achieve immortality: one is to plant a tree, two is to write a book, and three is to sire a child or children.
Your father must have been gripped by nostalgia while helping you put up your room in '70s-era stuff. The father-daughter bonding activity must have struck a chord within him thus the admission. He must have been thinking that you have grown so fast and no longer a baby and that you remind him of those ol' glory days of his youth.
Suffice it to say, all parents live vicariously, to some extent, through the experiences and activities of their children.
2007-06-13 12:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Chief 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To live vicariously for the right reasons can be a powerful tool for enlightenment. I enjoy being able to see today's world through the perceptions of my children, unpolluted from abuses better left unsaid.
As a recovering addict, I can't begin to express how grateful I am whenever a newcomer walks into a meeting. Even if they never speak a word, their rawness reminds me of exactly what I don't want to revert to again.
I love watching shows about amusement theme parks. It's been too long since I last rode a monster rollercoaster. My adrenaline soars, even if only for a few moments, whenever seeing footage from a front-car mounted camera.
Yes, living vicariously can be awesome!
2007-06-13 20:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by *~*~*poof*~*~* 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He realized part of the great secret. We are all one. The way he used it with you, without explanation, is reprehensible. He isn't, just the way he took away your freedom. He was trying his best with the tools he had. Maybe he was told the same when he was a kid. Probably he was referring to giving you something that he would have really liked if someone had given it to him. Many parents feel the same way towards their kids when the kids are enrolled in sports, music lessons, etc.
Just for fun though, when you have a chance to look at someone, maybe on the bus, or metro, or wherever, try to see yourself in them. You will be surprised.
2007-06-13 19:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It just means you are helping him reminisce, or relive those days in his mind, days that he lived through and probably misses. It's not harmful to you except you might feel robbed of expressing your own style. You can ask him to stop and tell him nicely that it make you feel a little creepy. He will understand.
2007-06-13 19:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To live what one wishes their life was like though another person close to you that you influence. Dorian Grey (/Gray) ftw!
2007-06-13 19:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is enjoying life through your experiences. You are giving him a chance to relive his youth.
2007-06-13 19:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by TAT 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He means that by participating in your young-adulthood, he partially relives his own 'glory days'
2007-06-13 22:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are the reason he lives ......he loves you so much
2007-06-13 20:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by Praiser in the storm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like fat ugly soccer moms who make their baby girls look like midget whores.
2007-06-13 19:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋