Say you're a 29 year old woman, who has a 5 or 6 year old girl, and a 4 year old girl. You are very wealthy, bringing in maybe 15 million between you and your husband. You cheat on your husband; he physically and mentally abuses you. You love the man you cheated one with much more than you love your husband, and want to leave your husband for him. Since your husband is abusive, the court grants you (the woman) full custody of the two children. The children love their father very much, and he hasn't done anything to them. But since you're in love with another man, you immediately get married to him right after the divorce. How would the children deal with loosing their father like that, and immediately having a new man in their life?
2007-06-13 11:50:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The children come first, you should not remarry until the kids are ok with it. I would spend my time being my kids' mom, and nothing else. This guy (the affair) would understand if he loves you. The kids need thier mom, but if mom's emotions come first, then I feel sorry for the kids.
2007-06-13 12:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'd probably have a hard time adjusting because they were not able to get to know the new man before they were forced to live with them. With children, it's very simple. They need stability, and when something alters the stability they had, they have a hard time adjusting to anything new. They don't understand why you fell in love with someone else that's not daddy. They don't understand that daddy was mean to mommy and mommy shouldn't deal with that. All they know is that life with mommy and daddy, and don't want it to change.
It's going to take a lot of explaining and a lot of patience from you. But, eventually, they'll most likely get it. It's just going to take time.
2007-06-13 18:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by Impavidsoul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not good look after having kids it's not about you any more so stop it, take your time marriage is just a peace of paper and look if you X makes 15million a year wait that new marriage out cause it's time to get paid. Girl come on now don't jump into another one wait it out if he loves you then he will wait it out with you and now that you have full custody that also means that where ever you go and what ever you do they are right there with you so be careful about the men you keep for your kids sake.
2007-06-13 19:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I think that it would be very difficult on them. I am speaking from personal experience... Except it was my father who got remaried immediately however I lived with my mother. Either way I was very angry. At the time mostly at my fathers new wife. I felt as if she took my dad away. It was hard for many years. To be honest it just took time. Assuming this is your story the only advice I can offer is to let them know always that you love them very much and that the situation has nothing to do with them and is not their fault.
2007-06-13 19:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference does the $15 million make? You're children will deal with it just like all the "little people" in the world do. They'll probably be confused, hurt and resistant.
2007-06-13 18:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmy :o) 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The kids would hate the other guy for the simple fact that he is not their father.
You just can't force a relationship between the other man and your children. They may behave well around the guy, but that will not stop them from hating him.
2007-06-13 18:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, do you change husbands more than you change your underwear? If not, children should be able to adapt. You have to think about setting a good example for the kids though, they're what's most important in the world, not this guy you're suddenly in love with. You probably won't even remember his name in 5 years anyway.
2007-06-13 18:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
honestly for the sake of the children i wouldnt get married again right away the kids will need time to adjust to everything and the woman will need to figure out where she is in life...
2007-06-13 18:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the kids time to adjust first to their Father not being there. Don't get married right away.
2007-06-13 18:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by coffee56man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know - if you have 15 million - buy the kids some damn counselling.
2007-06-13 18:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by aa889d 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋