I have been married for a long time. My husband has not hardly touched me for ten years. What is wrong and how can i fix this. I have tried everything. I am about ready to divorce.
2007-06-13 11:40:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
age perhaps?
have him go to the doctor... it might be that he has issues getting or keeping an erection
2007-06-13 11:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. first of all let me say this, just because he is not getting it from you does not mean he is getting it from someplace else. That is simply not true all of the time. Not all men need sex all of the time, and some men not very often at all. If your man has had any big changes in his life, or his appearance has changed in any way since you were active in that way, he could well feel he is not worthy of your time. It is best to simply ask if there is something wrong, do not nag about it, that will not work. If you have a strong relationship other than in the sex department, and are honest with one another, I'm sure you'll find out exactly why he is acting the way he is, that will be the first step in fixing your problem.
2007-06-13 21:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Scott O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one should have to BEG a spouse for anything - that is humiliating and erodes self respect.
If this has been going on for ten years (which is pretty unbelievable!) you must realize he has some serious issues with sex - can't, won't, gets it somewhere else - man or woman - he does not want you, (perhaps tho not fault of yours) It's ain't gonna happen.
If you are not ready to divorce, it's pretty simple - either you go outside the marriage for sex or you don't have sex - plain and simple!
You cannot fix him!! When will women get that through theirs heads???!!!
2007-06-13 18:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a really heavy woman and he doesn't like that? Does he have a really stressful job?
My husband was the same way with me for the first 9 years of our marriage...he changed jobs, and I can't keep him off of me.
Also, maybe your husband has a low sex drive and needs some meds to help him with having the urge.
Divorce is better than cheating. If he doesn't want you...life is to short to live it sexless. You can stay friends with him, but have someone else that wants you sexually.
2007-06-13 19:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Allison 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to decipher why he doesn't want sex now. Talk to him and if it's not a huge medical problem then look to entice him back in with you. Don't beg him or nag him into sex that won't work and if it does it'll be half hearted at best. Instead play with him. Get him excited about it.
2007-06-13 18:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has been going on for 10 years? And you are still around? Look, last time I heard of this kind of situation, from my multiple male friends, the consensus is in, If you are not getting it from him, he is getting it somewhere else, so, get a divorce already, and get some.
Get it?
2007-06-13 18:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like to feel desired, wanted, and needed. He will be happy as long as you are wanting sex from him. If he has a low sex drive, see if he would be interested in taking supliments or possibly consulting a doctor.
2007-06-13 19:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it to me...ONLY if you have tried everything like you said..Maybe he cheats alot. I hate to ask this but are you in any way over weight...if so try to lose weight, wear some amkeup, heels, sexy clothes for him, lip gloss and Try to be a FREAK just for your Husband. It works all the time for me.. Not that i have a problem with my husband..But i'm very free with him and i'm a freak with him..
2007-06-13 18:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and him need to watch "Talk sex with Sue" it is on the Oxygen channel Sunday nights @ 11pm.
2007-06-13 18:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by Uhg....... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried a)TALKING TO HIM and asking what's going on? Not just beating him on the head, but actually having a conversation.
b) COUNSELING
Yeah, you haven't tried everything.
2007-06-13 19:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried talking to him about it??? maybe seeing a therapist would help?? i am not really sure but i am sorry about your sistuation and i bet it is frustrating.
2007-06-13 18:45:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋