As far as I know, there's really no law that says you have to use your husband's last name...in effect, you can forever remain Ma. Cristina Roxas even if you marry Francisco Reyes.
Your thoughts, please. Thank you very much.
2007-06-13 11:27:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
I will use my husband's name because I want to carry his name, because I wanted to tell the world that I am married to a wonderful guy and everybody in the family uses their husband's surname.
I don't bother to be different and I can imagine the repercussions when I retain my maiden name. My family will nag me to death!
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Some of the answers here are an eye-opener for me:
"I wouldn't marry a woman that didn't want to change her name. "
Thats a very strong statement but I respect for you for that.
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2007-06-13 15:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by DeathStar 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i know one thing for sure that often when you travel overseas, it is easier to get a visa in some countries if both spouses have the same family name. if they have other names, then they have to show proof of marriage and all that blah blah blah, which can be very painful if lets say you are married for 16 years. i on my part had a harrowing experience.
leme share it. i was married twice and both times the husbands belonged to the same 'family name' eg Simon. the first time i did not change my name, as he was cool about it. the second time the second one insisted that i change the name, even before i could be married, simply so that i should get the visas. anyhow that too had to end the same route...so here i was trying to revert back to my own maiden name. so much for not sticking to your guns.
i think its best to use both names, like a lot of ladies have two family names. get's elongated though.
2007-06-14 11:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by soulfree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's true. The law allows a woman to retain her maiden name even if she's already married. I've met some of them and they say they retained their maiden names because they are their own person even if they are already married.
Apparently, some women feel that carrying the husband's name is like stealing her identity from her. They reason that because they have already established their identities long before their husbands came to their lives, they prefer to keep their maiden names.
But I opted to use my husband's surname. I already know that I am my own person with or without my husband. A name is just a name. As long as you know who you really are, any name you call yourself is irrelevant.
Plus, my husband's surname is beautiful! =)
2007-06-13 20:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by roche_leonor 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My boyf's surname is too French sounding I wouldn't want to use it IF we ever get married. It will sound weird next to my name. But in the end I will likely change into my husband's name. If I am to be known by some guy's name, I'd rather it be the man I chose, than the guy my mother did.
2007-06-14 03:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I become well known by the time I get married, I would probably keep my surname.
If my husband would not agree, I would just append his surname to my last.
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Ma. Luz Roxas-Marasigan (not my real name)
2007-06-13 21:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by jrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've always wanted to keep my own name forever. When I got married, I decided to change my name because I would want to have the same last name as my children.
2007-06-13 22:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by avenus 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry a woman that wouldn't change her last name unless she needed it for business or she was like a start or something.
But there is no law currently in the Philippines that requires it and therefore it is a matter of individual preference, which is the way it should be.
2007-06-13 20:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by ... 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you opt to be different, to retain your individuality, your uniqueness, why not? As you said, no one can force you to take your husband's name if you don't want to. But it is ironic how one legally married woman refrains from taking her husband's name when there are others who are willing (even if not appropriate) to be called missus when they don't have the legal right to be called as such. Anyhow, complications might arise from not using one's husband's surname and it is best not to take on any risk.
2007-06-13 23:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by annabelle p 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a husband, I won't care if my wife don't carry my surname but my children should.
Under such a situation, my wife will appear more like a MADRASTA! he hehehehe.
2007-06-14 01:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by junior 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry a woman that didn't want to change her name. After all, you are suppose to become one, a partnership. If you keep your last name, you are saying that I am my own person and not part of a marriage. It's your choice, but it's his too. Of course you can keep your name, just as it's ok for him to decide to not marry you after all.
Your welcome.
2007-06-13 18:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋