How do you cope?
I've lived without a father much longer than with one. (He died when I was 7.) I lied to a friend today and told her Father's Day was like Eid Al Fitr or Hanukkah--something other people celebrate and I don't think about. It's not quite like that. I sprint past that greeting card aisle and delete all e-mails about it without reading and just try to deny it as best as I can.
If your father's dead or otherwise missing from your life, how do you deal with it? And is my reaction normal when it's been over 25 years?
2007-06-13 11:25:21 · 9 answers · asked by GreenEyedLilo 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
My brother and I have tried that with our mother. She doesn't like it. :-)
And I do know and accept the facts. I just don't *like* them.
2007-06-13 11:52:38 · update #1
i grew up without my father, saw him on occasion and the last occasion was 12 years ago. he just dies this past march but honestly, i have never made a big deal about it anyhow. it was just something that never drossed my mind. only this time around when my daughter came home from school with a fathers day present (a candle she made herself) and reciting a peom they learned. that was a bit harder but i just asked her to whom she wanted to give the gift to. we wound up giving it to my brother who's first child is due in two weeks. its easy enough if you don'`t really think about it and if it bothers you so much not to have a father to celebrate for on that day, why not make it a day for a favorite uncle, brother cousin or friend? who cares if its not your real father.. if they were a father figure to you in anyway shape or form then they should be acknowledged as well. my brother (who is 4 years younger) was the only male in our home. so i made it his day. he was very happy to be honored like that and i was happy to give him something.
2007-06-14 00:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are without a father? If you are without a father due to an unfortunate event, I would suggest celebrating your father's life by spending a few hours in solemn remembrance. If you are fatherless because his only involvement in your birth was the donation of his sperm, I have other ideas. If this is your situation, go have a drink and salute the ole man for not poisoning your life. If you mean that you are not a father, celebrate by trying to become one! In the end, what you do to celebrate father's day should honor father in a way that he deserves.
2016-05-19 21:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lived without a father in my life for 13 years myself. I used to send him something I made in school but after a while I stopped caring. Now that he is dead I do not really think about the holiday and it is just a normal day in my house.
2007-06-13 11:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by jjc92787 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing a parent at such a young age is pretty horrible. Your memory of your father is something you need to hang on to. I don't know your situation, but could you sit down with your mother and ask her some questions? Just talk about your dad. Do you have aunts and uncles who you could talk to? Make Father's Day a time to remember. If he is buried near where you live, take flowers to him. Instead of a day you don't want to think about, make it a day to celebrate your father.
I lost my dad three years ago. He was 87. I still miss him terribly. My prayers are with you.
2007-06-13 11:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Pest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father is not in my life and has not been for 20 years. It still gets to me. For the past 15 years I have bought a card for him, wrote a short letter in it about my, my feelings, etc. and I put it in a special box. This has helped me get through this some.
2007-06-13 11:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by AHHHHhhhhh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my dad passed away when i was 12 but my mom had to step up and play mom and dad to 3 of us , and she did the best she could have under the circumstances , so on fathers day i send my mother a card saying happy fathers day to a mother who played a mans role the best she could
2007-06-13 11:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by dale621 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friends dad died when he was 2 and ive never thought about it untill now but it must be hell to go through that. all your other friends talking about what there gonna do. i think you should just talk to a friend about it and try to ignore it if that helps
2007-06-13 11:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that this is totally normal, but u have got to get over it. c a psychiatrist or something. im so sorry=(, but i think u should just face the facts. good luck=)
2007-06-13 11:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by stargirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GOD my FATHER is sufficient for me, Bless HIS HOLY NAME.
Bless all of the names of GOD.
JEHOVAH
YAHWEH
JESUS CHRIST
YESHUA
JESHUA
HOLY SPIRIT
2007-06-13 14:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by dave777 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋