Is it true that every marriage is the hardest in the first year?

Answer 1

Try after 17 years and you catch your wife in an emotional affair and you had absolutely no idea about it?

Answer 2

It's the best and the worst of times - the first and second year - these years hold the most adjustment. Expectations may have been unrealistic and reality is different than you thought it would be. The chemistry of the relationship actually changes and many couples think they have fallen OUT of love. The endorphins that go with falling in love last about 24 months. Moving on to a more stable time is not bad - it can bring more security and stability, but, many who get a high and addicted on the endorphins of falling in love and do not have a mental understanding of this think love is over and start the process all over again. This has nothing to do with your choosing the right person. It is a normal process. Some people just don't seem to EVER get it - that this keeps happening over and over again. It is NOT the person they marry - it is the natural development of things.

If you ever think of divorce - do NOT do it until you reach the 3rd year and do not have a baby - go to a counselor to help through the rough patches and get the tools to keep you going! If for some reason it doesn't work out - well, you know there were other reasons than chemistry and a child will not have to suffer.

Good luck

Answer 3

I think, the first year of living together can be challenging, whether married or not. At least this has been my experience. My husband and I lived together for a year and a half before getting married, and signing the marriage license did not make our relationship harder - we had all of our issues pretty well "ironed out" during our first year together. If anything, getting married had made our lives easier as now everyone takes us more seriously, including the families; it feels more "official".

Answer 4

No, but mine was. I thought the first year would be great. I thought we would spend every spare minute together laughing and having sex. Instead, we spent the entire first year fighting (I even moved out for a month). I think we needed to learn to accept each others differences. We learned to let the little stuff go and just appreciate what we have. It takes a while to adjust. Don't let the first year discourage you. I have now been happily (except for the first year) married for ten years with three beautiful children.

Answer 5

Honestly, I think that would depend if you lived with the person for any amount of time at all before you were married. A lot of people frown on that sort of thing, but I surely wouldn't want to enter into a life long partnership with someone if I had absolutely no idea what they were like when they woke up in the morning. Simple things like daily habits can really be hard to deal with when you are not familiar with them.

Answer 6

Yes, you are just trying to put things together and even if you lived together first, the rules are different now. There is a real commitment and responsibility. You will soon learn that the years are easy, it is the day to day things that make it hard. I've been married for over 8 years and it keeps getting better.

Answer 7

I've always heard between the 5th and 7th year marriage is the hardest.

Answer 8

As long as you have the right partner, it is not that hard to be married the first year or any year for that matter. You need someone that will respect you. Thats the biggest thing. If someone cares about your feelings and respects you, there should be no problem at all.

Answer 9

Yes, it is true, even if you lived with your man before marriage because you're both getting use to the idea of "living as one". Making decisions as one and financing as one.

Answer 10

Mine was hardest in the last year.