2007-06-13 10:54:04 · 13 answers · asked by USSouthernBelle 2 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
what state do you live in? you may have grandparent rights depending on the state but not all states have them
2007-06-13 10:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best avenue to take would be to try to maintain a good relationship with the mother and keep in touch with her so you can visit the child and if things don't work where ever the young woman is going, she knows she can return with the child to your home (if you are open to that) or if it is too much for her, you will be willing to take the child back.
This is especially true if she is moving out of state with a new boyfriend; she may have stars in her eyes about becoming the perfect family and if she has not had full time care of the child up until then, nor the man have any experience with babies and children, the fairly tale may end very quickly for all involved and if you don't leave her an out, she is not going to tell you if there are problems (even more so if she doesn't have good family support like your son does).
If the baby is hers there is nothing you can do. Your son would have legal standing to pursue custody, but he would need to hire a lawyer. Unless she has a history or being abusive or neglectful (having left the child with you in a loving home would not be considered neglectful, it was doing what was best for the child at that point in time), best case scenario would likely be joint custody between her and your son, but that varies depending on where you live and who the Judge is.
2007-06-13 18:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, you don't have a legal leg to stand on!
If she is abusive or neglectful you can call SRS in the state she went to, but legally that is your only recourse.
The child is hers, and though your grandchild may be better off with you, you still are not her parents! I wish this wasn't such a big issue as it is, but many children are born to children who are not capable of bonding with, or caring for, a child! That doesn't help the child or you out as children only have "negative rights"! That is, you have to do something wrong, like abuse, for the state to use it's power under the doctrine of Parens Patrea, which goes back to the Magna Carta!
2007-06-13 18:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by cantcu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You worded it oddly, but it translates to the mother moved out of state with her child. As a rule, that's perfectly OK, unless you have grounds to show that your daughter (or perhaps daughter-in-law) is an unfit parent. If so, consult a family law attorney to see what your options are, but do not do this lightly. It will certainly divide the family and be costly for all involved.
2007-06-13 17:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Uncle Pennybags 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is her child I would suspect there is little you can do about it unless there are other overriding circumstances (i.e. if the child is in imminent danger (in which case you should contact the authorities immediately!) My heart goes out to you...You are obviously concerned about your grandchild (and his\her Mom too, I suspect.) In the mean time, DO keep any line of communication open. I pray that everything works out OK for you and your loved ones. Blessings...
2007-06-13 18:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Stevie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but grandparents really do not have rights. Sad but true. You can fight for visitation but if it is the childs mother unemployed or not she has the rights. I know b-cuz my friends family went through the same thing.
2007-06-13 17:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by margaret t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she did was ethically wrong, but she did not commit any crime. She is the mother and has right to take her baby wherever she wants. You may need to persuade your son to pursue legal custody if you want the baby to live with you.
2007-06-13 17:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the mother has the same rights if not more thatn any other oerson in the world to her baby, unless she has proven that she is a danger to the baby. It is her baby, the baby belongs to her not you, you need to realize that. Just because someone is unemployed is no reason to say that she can't take her baby. just don't piss her off because you might not to ever see the baby then.
2007-06-13 18:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And there probably isn't a thing you can legally do about it. Unless the mother of your grandchild was married to your son, and your son died, you probably have no legal rights to visitation.
However you should still consult an attorney
2007-06-13 17:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by gross d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it HER child? If it is, the only thing you can do is be nice to her so she will allow you to have a relationship with the child. If your son is the father (paternity test should be taken), then he can try to get joint or full custody of the child or even visitation.
2007-06-13 18:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by Stranger In My Heart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋