I am currently 3 months pregnant with my first child. Everyone thinks it is going to be a boy. I feel like I am going to let everyone down if it is a girl. It doesn't matter to me, but lately I feel like I am going to be disappointed if it is a girl because I will let everyone down. Has anyone else felt this way? Why do I feel this way? Please don't be mean in your answers because it doesn't matter to me if it is a boy or girl, just as long as it is healthy.
2007-06-13 10:36:22 · 17 answers · asked by just helping out 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I can sympathize because my husband and I were hoping for a son the third time around and we had a daughter, so in a sense I sort of felt that he was let down.
But it's really not a big deal because soon after the baby is born all of those doubts are replaced with love and excitement as you meet your newest child. My husband forgot all about wanting a boy and immediately began helping me choose our new daughter's name.
So all I can say is....no you will not be disappointed even though you may feel that now. The miracle of a new baby (no matter what sex) makes everyone happy, even people who expressed hopes for the opposite gender.
2007-06-13 10:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling well.
My family wants a girl, his family wants a boy and I have NO clue as to what I am having. I already have a daughter and I knew with her but this one I have no idea. One day I think maybe girl the next I think no definitely boy, but until I have an ultrasound at 18-20 weeks I am not going to be able to know.
Try and hang in there. I am 12 weeks right now and it seems like such a long time from now, but it does go fast. Before you know it you will be able to tell everyone and then you can celebrate because no one will be disappointed. Trust me. How can someone get disappointed over a baby???
Good Luck and happy pregnancy.
2007-06-13 11:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, remember that it is the man's sperm that determines if it's a boy or a girl -- you really have nothing to do with it! I hope that helps relieve some pressure! Secondly, you should never feel like you're letting anyone down by bearing and bringing a beautiful new bundle of joy into the world. I'm pregnant, too, and his side REALLY wants it to be a boy. I'm kind of partial to a girl (maybe because they're so adamant about a boy!) But frankly, any healthy baby is fine. I think once they see your adorable new addition, people will warm up no matter what it is. Someone helped me with a quote from Dr. Seuss and I'm going to share it with you: Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind! Good luck and congratulations to you!
2007-06-13 10:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 15 weeks and always thought it was a boy all along and I told everyone, so now I will feel stupid if it is a girl. I feel just the same though, as long as it is healthy it can be either sex in my book. Anyway, who cares if other people are let down, that is their problem! Once they see the baby they will love it no matter what it is.
2007-06-17 10:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by ejg411 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean everyone wanted us to have a girl. When we found out it was a boy I was surprised that I wasn't disappointed even though I wanted a girl. My husband was actually more disappointed that I would have thought but that is only cause my stepdaughter really wanted to have a baby sister. Trust me everyone will just be happy you are having a baby and if they are disappointed it will be short lived. Anyone who cant get over it has some personal issues of their own that has nothing to due with the baby. Good luck!
2007-06-13 10:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 boys already and there are all boys in my family...except me. Everyone, and I mean everyone but me thought I was having a girl and they always said "I hope its a girl". I knew deep down it was a boy and the ultrasound confirmed it. My husband and I were so happy and when we shared the news with some of our relatives they were disappointed. I was sooooo pissed! Dont even worry about everyone else, they will get over it and be so happy when that little miracle is born. Good Luck and Congrats to you!
2007-06-13 11:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez! I know exactly how you feel! My husbands family has not had a girl on thier side in over 170 years!~ Talk about pressure! I thought my hubby would die if it was a girl! Even though it was ok with me either way, I felt some serious pressure. I just had my 22 week ultrasound and thank God it's a boy! Either way, just know that the baby will be loved no matter what! Looking back I wish I would have just told them all to shut up! To take whatever they got and be happy with it! At times I wanted to!
Congrats!
Very Best Wishes!
2007-06-13 10:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by gracie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be letting everyone down?
Just because your family or friends are guessing that you are having a boy does not mean they wil be disappointed if you have a little girl. Best of luck for a healthy child...girl or boy!
2007-06-13 10:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Chase 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It was the same when I was pregnant with my daughter. Now, I am having twins, and everyone wants boy/boy or boy/girl. I feel like if it's two girls, everyone will be disappointed. My husband and I don't care at all. Mainly it is my family.
2007-06-13 10:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every one will have to realize that you don't control DNA and that you can't make yourself have a boy. When I was pregnant with my son, everyone wanted it to be a boy so bad, my dad especially. I was hoping for a boy, but it didn't matter. He turned out to be a boy, but everyone would have loved him no matter what. If you have a girl, I am sure every one will give it as much love and affection as they would a boy. They will just be glad to have a baby to play with. :)
2007-06-13 10:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by violentbeauty6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋