I just recently started working out again. I get off of work at 5 and make it to the gym about 6:30-7. I'm usually there about an hour. My husband wants me to. cut my workout short so I can get home and spend time with him. (He has to get up early in the morning and we usually don't see eachother until I get home from the gym. We have a short time to eat something and settle for bed before doing it all over again the next day. We both have weekends off. I feel like we spend plenty of time together. He doesn't he says that I'm neglecting my family... am I being selfish?? Theres a 10yr reunion in two weeks and I need to work out. It FRUSTRATES me when he asks me to cut my gym time either in half or to not go at all.... This schedule won't be like this for long. Just for a short while. Once again, am I being selfish and what should I do? Thanks to all..
2007-06-13 10:33:00 · 29 answers · asked by Shronn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hello yahoo answers i'm the husband described in the original question and i would like to clarify what the real question is.....first, its not her reunion, its mine, its not a co-ed gym, its an all womens gym, and third i'm the one who suggested she get a gym membership if she were unhappy with her energy level and wght gain (not that im concerned with how she looks for my reunion, ive been suggesting the gym long before reunion so she would feel better about herself). I'd also like to add that i have plenty of my own hobbies, i work out before wk in the morning and im busy into the early evening. i want my wife to be happy and healthy, but there are only so many hrs in a day and i just think if my wife wks out 4 3hrs 5 days a week this leaves us with an hour or so to cook, eat, shower, get ready for bed...plus, i just think not eating until 8p is counter productive to our goals. i don't need a perfect schedule just a little structure and some evening face time w/my wife. peace
2007-06-14 01:59:59 · update #1
Get up early and work out it is more effective anyways plus it is important to spend time with each other.
2007-06-13 10:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can't you change your work hour and leave at 4 instead of 5 Pm. Change your workout schedule, instead of everyday, do it 4 days a week. Professional Trainners recommend taking breaks between days of workout to give your muscles a chance to heal and rest.
You might hate me for saying this, but you are doing it for the wrong reason, just to fool a few people into thinking you look healthy and then let yourself go after the reunion. Sorry just being honest.
2007-06-13 18:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think you are being selfish. You should be GLAD he wants to spend time with you! If you keep neglecting HIM in favor of your vanity, he will find someone who DOES pay attention to him---and you won't be happy about it.
Why not compromise--go to the gym 2 nights a week, and take long brisk walks TOGETHER the other 3? Or ask him to go to the gym WITH you. Surely your marriage is more important than some reunion?
2007-06-13 17:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah your being selfish...who did you marry your husband or the gym? If you think you NEED to "get in shape" for a reunion then you are getting into shape for the wrong reasons to begin with and it isn't going to do your body that much good anyway. Your husband should be your priority not a class reunion.
2007-06-13 18:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two weeks isn't a long time...
just explain to him that you want to look your best for your reunion.
Maybe he's a little afraid that you want some man at your reunion to see you toned, or maybe he's afraid of the same thing happening at the gym.
Reassure him, but don't let him control you. Working out at the gym to better your physical side does not fall into the realm of the inappropriate.
2007-06-13 17:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
On a short term basis you are not being selfish. However, after that reunion, cut your work outs to 2 - 3 days a week and come home the other nights and fix a really great dinner for him.
2007-06-13 17:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just simply explain this to him and let him know that you want to look really impressive for him at the reunion. Tell him that you are doing it cuz you want to look the best for him. And take at least one day off from the gym and rent a movie or something, then go in the Am on the weekend...i'm sure it would make him feel good.
2007-06-13 17:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by 1.2..3...Boo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are being selfish. You need to put your husband first, or else you may end up with a tight bod that lays in a cold lonely bed wishing you did what your hubby asked you to do. Besides, he isn't asking you to cut them out all together. Make some time for him, and you will be happy for it.
2007-06-13 17:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by tahndi_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not selfish. He needs to suck it up and find a hobby to keep him occupied while you're unavailable to entertain him every spare minute of the day. Tell him that this isn't going to be like that for long - he should understand and not be such a baby about it. An hour is about as long as you want to spend working out for it to be useful - otherwise, why bother at all?
2007-06-13 17:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The gym is an hour and 1/2 away from your work? That is a long way.
Can you get up with your husband & workout in the morning?
You should try & accomodate his request.
2007-06-13 17:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by molly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, a little but explain to him that you want to look good for the reunion and then things will settle back down. Its just for a short time, right?
2007-06-13 17:42:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋