Well, I'm in school, and one of my very good friends is a gay boy, and at lunch, these boys sometimes come up to our table and harass him by calling him "a disgusting homo" or "fag". Believe me, of course I've told the guidance counselors about it, but they never did anything, and my best friend and I went and told the teachers who are in charge of lunch about it, and they told the principal, but then the boys denied it and didn't get in trouble at all. They don't do it as often, but still occasionally. It really disturbs me, and it seems like I've tried everything. Is there anything else I can do?
2007-06-13 10:31:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tinki Winkieii:
Whats wrong with you?! P*ss off.
2007-06-13 10:38:43 · update #1
Go to the principal with the boy they are picking on. If it comes down to the homosexual child's word versus the bullies, you are there to state the truth as well. That's my best suggestion, as if not the bullies are just going to keep denying it and your friend will still get harassed. Good luck and good for you for caring! :)
2007-06-13 10:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jyse 6 · 8⤊ 4⤋
Since you've already brought this to authority and they haven't done anything about it, then you should just say something yuorself. Next time these boys come over just give them an 'are you serious?' look, not an angry look, just kind of an amused at how dumb they are look. Then you could say "sure he's gay...why are you obsessed with that?" (you dont have to say 'sure hes gay' because that may be awkward for him) but if you instill to these boys that what they're doing is indeed an obsession, theyll stop. The last thing theyll want to do is 'obsess' with a gay boy.
Meanwhile, make your friend realize that you dont care that hes gay, because while tehse boys are harrassing him, he needs a friend and you are a very close one to him.
2007-06-13 17:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, get proof. I'm sure you can use a tape recorder that you can turn on if they come by and say this, so you can catch them.
But your friend needs to realize that they don't pick on him because he's gay, they're just using that as an excuse to pick on him. They're bullies, and as such they need to put others down to feel good about themselves, they need to feel that power and control, otherwise they feel inferior.
So your friend just needs to not give them that power, either by standing up to them, reporting it(which you tried), or ignoring them. If they get no satisfaction, and no reaction, they will stop.
Stop by your counselor again and ask for more advice on bullying and how to deal with it, since reporting hasn't worked well enough and it needs to be stopped.
But also realize, if your friend wasn't the one getting picked on, they'd pick on someone else who is remotely different, be it another gay kid, or a visible minority kid, or an overweight kid. Gay is just the excuse, it's not the reason behind the behaviour. These kids are bullies, remember that.
2007-06-13 17:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Luis 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I remember that happening when I was in school too. :-(
My suggestion would be to get your friend to go with you to the principal, you know the person who is in charge of the school, and tell him/her about the situation. If that doesn't work talk with your parents and try getting them to call up the school board and complain, it will get the teachers in trouble for not helping you.
2007-06-13 17:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You could try taking this up with your parents.That school seems to be lacking a responsible adult so probably going to your parents possibly in combination with the boys parents is the best.
I feel sorry for your friend but at least he has a loving caring friend who wants to help him out.God bless you and good luck
2007-06-13 17:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by ++ 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe should speak with his parents of your best friend.. or talk to the principal.. at least there is should be someone who is can fix the troubles of the people there.. but let me tell you one thing be careful some boys are so violent
2007-06-13 17:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you allowed to have your cell phones during lunch, does your cell have a voice recorder, use it. With taped evidence no one can turn you away and it can even be use in a harassment lawsuit against the little pissheads.
2007-06-13 18:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Treat429 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the Principal isnt doing anything about it..that is dead bad. Take it up to the local News Station and tell them that the School is not taking action. Your friend can suffer from psycological problems if he is deeply affected by it.
2007-06-13 17:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Escence 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go visit his school counselor. Ask that counselor if he/she can change his lunch schedule. I don't know about your school but most schools where I come from have 2 lunch periods. Tell him he should see about getting his lunch schedule changed.
2007-06-13 21:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your friend is being harassed for being gay, you're a very good friend to be there to stand by his side. I hope he knows that those things that people are saying about him isn't true.
2007-06-13 18:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is gong to have to face up to the fact that some people will not like him and learn how to deal with that issue.
One good thing you can say to these creeps, "Yes, and he is still twice the man you are." Or "You know you seem to be VERY INTERESTED in Matt's sexuality. Why do you think that is.....?"
2007-06-13 17:46:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋