men who do all that they should do. pay their support on time, see there kids, regularly get screwed by the courts and the district attorneys office. we are persecuted for the men who dont pay. the d a is allowed to ruin someones life without even the due process requirement for criminals. whats everyone think about this?
2007-06-13 09:58:15 · 23 answers · asked by copdude5150 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're so right. We were in child support hell for a child that was not ours. It was potentially disastrous. The mother had been scamming the county for years. They wanted to pin it on someone. I feel for the innocent child, but I'm glad we got that settled out.
2007-06-13 10:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer to this question is that society, the legal system and the liberals have screwed up the whole state of marriage.
A woman can go and get a divorce without having a reason and the system makes no attempt to prevent it. The lawyers all get there cut and the ex-husband and father is left holding the bag struggling to make ends meet and keep up on child support. The man is left with little if he is lucky. And the ex-wife keeps dragging him into court asking for more.
Doesn't anyone take there wedding vows seriously anymore?
2007-06-13 10:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by dduga747 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid I dont see the probem here, if youre current on support payments, visit your kids regularly, go up and beyond, then there is absolutely no reason for the courts to even bother you. Maybe your talking about how the support has put financial burden on you. Besides what other guys do has no bearing on your life if youre current on payments. What does the due process of law have to do with this. If your ex is taking you back to court for either child support and/or custody issues you must be served your papers or there is no case. The DA cannot file charges against you if there is no substantial evidence supporting the charges, so unless there is more here than youre telling us, you really have no problem to help you with
2007-06-13 10:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly to say, the courts favor women in child issues...a man could have supported the kids since day one, but if the woman feels he isn't doing enough she can request more money. The courts should have some type of way to hold some of these women accountable for the money they get to make sure its going toward the child. I'm tired of seeing women dressed up and their kids looking thrown away. Some of the women who are really doing what they are supposed to be doing with the child support money gets screwed especially when they ask for basic help and the father doesn't do that. Its sad either way you look at it. You can't do anything about but pay...
2007-06-13 10:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not just the DA/courts...if the ex wouldn't be so ruthless and nit-pick over every little dime, then most men wouldn't have that problem. And the ex has the right to say that you can see them more too. But yeah, you are right about having to pay for others' mistakes, it sucks. This is coming from a woman, so I don't agree with the system either. Good luck! :)
2007-06-13 10:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, but I think that is not right. And on the flip side, many men who are abusive, neglectful, etc. still are granted visitation rights, sometimes with tragic results. The court system needs to evaluate each individual case more closely and put the needs of the child first.
2007-06-13 10:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by beattyb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there are too many men out there who don't live up to their responsibilities so when the occasional one comes along that does...he tends to get screwed as you are...be sure of this though...your kids in the long run will learn the difference and will be better off with a great father like you...
2007-06-13 10:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by mamapoulette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know what you are talking about. If you are seeing your kids regularly and want the best for them, how can you be screwed by the courts? My brother sees his kids from a previous marriage and always happily gives them more than the court requires him to pay because he feels such guilt at bringing them into the world and not being able to keep his marriage together for them. He wants them to have everything he can possibly give them, and he says he doesn't care what she gives them, he wants to make sure they have what they need always.
2007-06-13 10:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I have to agree with you on this one. I see it here in my own community. The men who never follow through fall through the cracks and get away with it. However, the men who pay and maintain their responsibilities; if they fall on hard times, it is back to court immediately and they face jail time. However, the men who never pay simply never pay.... Just keep looking forward to the future, it will not be for ever, and your children are benefiting from you doing the right thing. Good luck and God bless****
2007-06-13 10:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm not sure how you are being screwed. i pay almost a thousand a month in child support for my son, carry him on my insurance and see him as often as i can. my ex does her best to raise him in a healthy and stimulating environment. i see far more cases of men not paying child support and women finding so many ways to just get by. you should keep in mind that these women deal with everyday obstacles and responsibilities--.
2007-06-13 10:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by quiet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋