how do i come out to my parents about me orientation?

Question

okay, my dad is sooo anti gay and my mom is like, superchristian. im afraid of comeing out to them cause they threatened to throw me out of the house. im kinda scared of the reaction cause my dad gets angry real easy and he likes throwing stuff. my mom is so emotional and i hate to see her cry. what the fuzzle and i going to do!!!!! HHHHHEEEELLLLPPPPP MMMMMMEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 1

You do not have to follow all the other gays who live with mommy and daddy forever
leave home and then tell them !

Tell them after you have your life together in your new surroundings

you could be surprised
they may already know

Tell them you love them and that it isn't their fault..
That it is your decision ...

Time will heal all wounds..

Answer 2

First, if you are not ready to move out, don't tell your parents anything. You don't know their reaction.

I think you need a three-pronged action plan: get religion out of the picture (replacing it with science), make them see how normal gays are, and then introduce them to gay friends.

If you are ready to tell them, then start the three-step process. First of all, show them this video from 60-Minutes (the long-running "news magazine"). It explains what science is learning about being gay. This is an important step because anyone who watches it is less inclined to think of being gay as a choice or a sin. People are born gay. They did not make a choice in the matter.

You could always bring a gay friend to the house, and tell your parents this girl is thinking about telling her parents she is gay. You all watch the video together, and then gauge your parents reaction. If they give words of encouragement to your friend, you can then say, "Well mom and dad, she's not the only one who needs to tell her parents".

Next, have them watch this movie: "Latter Days". Of course, you should view it first and try to anticipate their reaction, but it should really soften them up for the news.

Lastly, if you have gay friends, people they know, have them come over. It will make your parents realize that gay people are just regular people.

There is an expression: "mothers always know". While this usually is true if a mother has a gay son, I think mothers often know if their daughter is gay. Also, fathers always have a soft spot for their daughters. Most fathers think of their daughter like a little princess, and they want them to be happy.

Be prepared for anything, but if you are really ready to move out in case their reaction is not good, then this is my suggestion. These two videos below should really help.

Answer 3

Who cares what mommy and daddy think?


The reality is this:


they could either first, embrace it or second, denounce it.


If they decide to except it and be happy, then excellent!


If they don't, then think about it like this:

You obviously have shown some concern over how your family will react. If growing up has shown us anything, its that concern and worries are both signs of love. If they don't except the idea, then why share that love with them anyways? Its the sad reality of life. Society perceives gay life as unusual. Unfortunately, this is how it is for now. And their isn't much of anything anyone of us can do about it. All we can wait for is time. Do the right thing, tell them, they deserve to know. But, depending on their reaction, you may have to do what a lot of people are doing nowadays, enjoying life with people that except you for all of the great things you are and leaving the people who don't.

Answer 4

I would never suggest, staying in, if you want to come out, but given and I take it that you are underage, your situation, I'd think about it long and hard, before doing anything. They've already threatened, to throw you out, so unless you have a plan and support system, it might not be a good idea, not just yet. And the closet, is not a good place to be. However what if they did throw you out, where would you go and how would you support yourself? Plan ahead, before doing anything, and what ever you decide, good luck.

Answer 5

I say go to counsler. Or if your underage wait til your 17 or 18 by then you should get a job and have a few bucks for cash. Then come out to them I had the same thing happen to friends. But if worse comes to worse stay with a relative that YOU trust and isn't bias against your decision of becoming LGBT. anywho I don't what im saying lol

Answer 6

Well the only thing I can tell you is to throw out little hints, this way they can get used to gay, tell them that you have a gay friend and see how they react if they are really pissed then hold out on telling them. But if you do tell them don't look for a happy reaction if you do finally tell them be prepared for the worst. It may seem sad but yeah it's like that

Answer 7

I'm not sure how old you are, but it might be best to wait until you're out of the house so that you don't have to depend on them. If you're old enough and either out of the house or plan on moving out soon. Than I would just sit down with them and let them know and you have to be prepared that they won't accept it. You'll have to be prepared if they tell you that they don't want to see you anymore. Hopefully they can accept you as their child with out worrying about the sexual orientation. The fact that my daughter's are my children is more important to me than any other issue that they have. I hope that things won't be as bad as you think that they might be. Your parents may surprise you and accept you for who you really are. Good luck

Answer 8

Don't. Just... well, don't.

I'm not telling you to not be true to yourself, but if you're young enough to still be living at home, its VERY likely you don't have the means to get a place and job of your own to support you.

For now, keep it under wraps until you can both physically and mentally deal with the challenges it will present. It might turn out well, but what are you going to do if it turns out badly? The very idea is apparently causing you stress, so I suggest not thinking about it.

Answer 9

Well either go straight (which I'm sure isn't your intention) or just tell them. They would probably not understand at first but if they love you then things should work out in the end. I hope it all turns out good for you and your parents.

Wow, a thumbs down on a wise crack in the beginning and an honest answer in the end. I guess she go the avoidance route?

Answer 10

maybe speak with them but show them some information according to the science.. try to avoid the bible.. and if you can research something about bible that supports the homosexuality.. there are some churches consider being gay is not sin.. even they hate gay acts. but there are more open minded churches.