5 MO. PREGNANT.havent received n e prenatal hlp due 2 not wanting to go thru with it . ANY1 KNOW IF ITS OK?

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I'M SO SCARED...I SET UP AN APT. NEXT MONDAY TO GET CHECKED UP...IM IN TEARS CAUSE I FEEL LIKE I REALLY MESSED UP THIS TIME(NOT TAKING CARE OF MYSELF). ALSO I'VE BEEN UNDER ALOT OF STRESS CAUSE OF MY BOYFRIEND'S ANGER PROBLEMS...MOST OF THE TIME HE GETS PHYSICAL. I HOPE MY BABY'S OK!? HELP

Answer 1

I would call the police immediately. If he is hurting you, you need to get away from him. The police can help you by putting you in a safe haven or shelter.

If you have family who can take you somewhere to hide you from him (maybe with a family friend that he doesn't know), I would appeal to them.

This happened to a family member of mine. Even though she married into the family and it was our own blood relation who was hurting her, the whole family stood by her and refuse to divulge where she was hidden. We got her an attorney and helped her to press charges. She and her daughter are safe from him, and she has since remarried.

Abusive people control you by making you afraid and telling that you can never get away from them. THIS IS A LIE. They only have power while you stay.

Do what's best for you and the baby. Get help right now.

Answer 2

It will be ok. You made a good choice in setting up an appt. I didn't have any health insurance when I first got preg with my daughter and I was not able to go in for an ob appt till I was 21 weeks along. They did all the blood work then and went over all the information: eating healthy, prenatal vitamins(which I was already doing). They scheduled an ultrasound the next week and everything was fine. She was very healthy. Your relationship is another issue. It is not safe for you and will not be safe for the baby. You need to find some help, whether it is a shelter, family members, or an abuse hotline, whatever is available in your area. Please do whatever you can to help yourself out of that situation, it will not get better! Bless you hon, I will pray for you.

Answer 3

First, leave your bf and by all means if you have to, get a restraining order. There ARE places you can go!

Second, I'm glad you finally set up an appointment. The doctor is there to help the two of you! He will make sure you are started on prenatal vitamins, he will check anything and everything possible with blood tests, he will give you what you should and should not eat lists, if not you can find those on the internet. Keep in mind women haven't always gone to a doctor for the sake of being pregnant.

Please, for the sake of you and your child, get away from that guy. Even if you choose to put the baby up for adoption, YOU still need to leave him and do something good for yourself!

Answer 4

Girl, pull yourself together! Let the past be the past and now focus on the present and the future. It's all about your baby and your health right now. If your boyfriend is being a jerk, do not loose sleep over it. You are expecting a wonderful baby in 4 months. Put your efforts towards that! Of course you should have been in to see a dr many months ago. There is nothing you can do about that now. Now is the time to get HEALTHY for you and your baby. You're definitly on the right track with making the appointment. You need to go to it! Don't be scared! Just explain to the dr what your feeling and your anxiety about the appointment. This is definitly not the first time they've heard of this! Take care of yourself and congratulations!

Answer 5

Congratulations. I am also 5 months pregnant with my first. I have been to the doctor several times and recently got a positive blood test that requires further testing. It just goes to show that anything could be wrong and there would be no way for you to know unless you get proper prenatal care. It's really important. There is nothing to be afraid of as far as prenatal care goes. You should definitely be on prenatal vitamins. I take PreCare Prenatal Chewables. They dont taste bad (Ive had much worse) and it wont mess with your stomach either like the ones you have to swallow do. Its not too late to get proper care, so dont feel bad. You should also be feeling movement at this point.

Just know that your stress affects the baby. You have an obligation to protect your baby at all costs. Your boyfriend shouldnt be putting his hands on you, pregnant or not. Let him know that you wont let him hurt your baby and he has to keep his hands off of you. The most important thing is to keep your stress levels down and to eat right!

Im sure your baby is just fine. But please go to the doctor. Keep your boyfriend's hands off you and good luck. Our baby's will be born around the same time!

And hey, if you go to the doctor - they'll do a sonogram and they'll be able to tell you the sex! How fun is that! Try to enjoy your pregnancy - there really is nothing else like it in the world. Please feel free to keep in touch with me - we're going through this at the same time.

Answer 6

First, there are a TON of resources for pregnant single moms. I'm calling you a single mom because I have the faith that you will take your child and leave him. Now, not later. There are a lot of places that you can actually live at with your child or while pregnant and they will give you your own apartment and pay your bills, help you find a job, and get in school. I will help out finding you a place. Feel free to email me [e-mail]. Now as far as not having medical care yet, no that isn't good, but I seriously doubt that anything that terrible is going on. You are only 5 months. You need to be seen ASAP, however, my sister in law only saw a doctor twice during her pregnancy. Yes, it was very foolish, but people make mistakes. Please contact me, I can help in so many ways.

Answer 7

I'm afraid that you and your baby need far more help than anyone here in Yahoo! Answers can give you. You are taking a step in the right direction by making a doctor's appointment, tho, so that is very good. Please call a local hotline for battered women and/or your local Planned Parenthood - and do it today. People there will be able to give you the advice and support you need to get thru this difficult time. Best of luck to you...am hoping that you and the baby will be fine.

Answer 8

They will be able to do an ultrasound and other tests to check for birth defects. Some defects cannot always be foreseen, but we have incredible preventative technology now.
If you do not want to keep your baby, you must continue to go to regular exams and look into an adoption plan (it is too late for other options). Any adoptive parent will want to know that the child they are recieving is in top health condition. I think that you will also find that these people will often help out the mother too, especially if she is in an abusive situation like yours. They want to ensure that their new bundle of joy is in the best possible scenario to come out good and healthy.
Here are some sites about adoption that could point you in the right direction:

http://www.adoptionsbygladney.com/index.shtml?source=google&gclid=CKy94oD32YwCFQVpFQoddl3jKQ

http://www.angeladoptioninc.com/

http://www.adoptionhelp.org/

Answer 9

Good thing your going to doctor. Best thing right now is to lower the stress. The baby can feel what you feel. get away from this guy, go with any family you might have and get medical help. Go to the doctor everytime your suppossed to go. take your vitamins. the doctor will prolly take a ultrasound ,check you out, and make sure everything is ok.

Answer 10

No it's not ok you have to see the doctor right away. Don't be scared they will help you, you owe that to your baby. You may have mess up but don't beat yourself up, and get away from your bf getting physical with you. He could hurt your unborn child or you, there is help for situations such as your. You are not alone now that I know I will pray for you. Much love take care.