My B/friend saw a guy she likes & has been wanting him for 6 months now.They ve never dated bcoz he's not interested in her & frankly has never been.The Problem is, He & I ve been interested in eachother from the start(for 6 months) but we can't date until my friend approves of it.You Americans may not understand this BUT it's cultural for us not to date a GUY your friend says she likes(All one has to do is say,"I want that Guy", meaning that Particular guy is off limits to all her friends)UNLESS she approves. The Guy is American & he thinks it's stupid(I agree but it is instilled in us).I tried to talk to my friend about it but she cut the conversation short.Our other friend told me that my B/friend knows that the guy wants me.The Guy is getting upset with me bcoz i ve been putting him on HOLD for sometime now.I ve kissed him once & no one knows.It's killing me not to be with him.I see him most of the times bcoz we are in the same social circles.should I secretly date him? MOre INFO
2007-06-13 09:04:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Am I wrong to have feelings for him. He has never touched my friend in a way that lovers do, just friendly hugs that’s all. He has gone as far as giving me flowers & my friend cried and cried about it. I love my friend and it’s not my intention to hurt her (that’s why I have not dated him yet). I understand why she really likes him becoz he is such a great guy plus good looking But I don’t know when she will realize that she will never have him. I don’t see anything he does to encourage her feelings. ON THE other hand he calls me every day. Last weekend me & him sat outside & I could feel the SEXual tention between us. I wanted to hold him so much BUT of course my friend was watching us. He wants to talk to her so much about us but I don’t want him to because it will cause a lot DRAMA. I can’t HOLD how I feel anymore & I don’t think she will ever approve of us.Apparently my b/friend told our mutual friend that “it will kill her thinking of me having sex with him”. Am I in the wrong?
2007-06-13 09:05:32 · update #1
Go to her place and tell her to say nothing until you are done talking. Tell her that it's not like you are stealing her boyfriend. This is not a guy she has ever date.
Yes that part of your culture sounds stupid but you have to talk to her. How long will this guy wait for you.
This guy must really like you to wait this long. If your friends says no just date him. You are in America and Americans will not shame you for that.
She knows it's coming and she can't stop it. You have put up with her nonsense for too long now. It's time to start dating this guy or else you will lose him and live to regret.
2007-06-13 09:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look tell her you love him and get with him not as a secret but put it out there. Regardless of cultural differences you just have to let that go because if you don't you can lose the guy you love. Talk to her, maybe even try to look for a guy that can make your friend happy. but if you are in love, you just have to take a risk
2007-06-13 09:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by deejay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have already tried talking to her and she cut you short, maybe you could write her a letter or have the guy talk to her and let her know that he is interested in you and he would like her permission for you to see him. He can let her know that you bout want to be friends with her. If she truly is your friend, she should not stand in the way of your happiness. Good Luck
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2016-10-07 11:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by gazdecki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To hell with your friend the B is jealous and knows that you have values and respect your culture. Clearly she doesn't because if she did she would value your friendship and know that this is hurting you and your chances of being happy
2007-06-13 09:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give me a break.
In any culture, you do not go after someone that your BF likes. If this is so cultural, why are you on here asking questions?
2007-06-13 09:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow..start dating him and tell her you tried to talk to her. she is being stupid.
2007-06-13 09:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-13 09:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Richard K 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋