Go to work! It is his daughter too! What is he going to do....leave her all alone if he wants to "go with his mate"? sounds like he needs to grow up and be a man and start accepting his responsibilities which is hs daughter, not his mate.
2007-06-13 09:01:04
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answered by Nicki B 3
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Put him in a headlock, and duct tape him to a chair! Just kidding!!! I would first like to say BRAVO to you for committing your time to the lives of special needs children. As the mom of a beautiful 2 year old living with Cerebral Palsy, I truly appreciate and love you for extending yourself to God's most special gifts.
I'm sure you're husband is a great guy and I can understand him wanting to hang out and relax with his friends on his only day off. But this job is really important to you as well, so you have to talk with him and get to the root of what the problem really is. Men don't generally turn down extra income and I know that he adores his daughter and shouldn't mind spending a few hours with her on the weekend while he relaxes at home. So what's the problem?
This situation may have more to do with you and this job than him not wanting to take care of his daughter, so I think you should explore that.
If after all of the conversations no compromise is reached, the only other option would be to find a relative or qualified babysitter whom you know, love and trust to keep her while you work.
Good Luck!
2007-06-13 09:36:18
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answered by ? 4
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Myself.... I would state to my Husband, I did not bring The Children intm this World by myself.....And as he must be aware this is an oppurtunity that you have wanted for a while now, so probably it will not arise soon again, And then I would tell him he shall look after His Daughter as his Daughter is more important than hs mates and so are you!!!
Or does he put his mates before his daughter and his wife?
If so why he not marry his mates?
Then i woud long and hard at the relationship!!!!
for even if you had not found a job at one day a week, do you mean he would still be off with his mates at weekend instead of spending quality time with his Family?
That is not right
2007-06-13 09:06:18
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answered by susan8589 3
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He prbably thinks hes earned the right to have a drink with his mates. He does not see it is his duty to watch daughter hence there will be great conflict. he may be secretly jealous that you have this opportunity to work with SEN children and have good pay for it. You are bringing forth a change and men do not like change. Explain how much you need to do your bit towards the benefit of the whole family income and how it will make you more happy to do this and if your more happy he will benefit. If not then get someone else to help such as a family member remember mam? Be determined he will back down in the end.
2007-06-13 09:06:36
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answered by Zmithy 2
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I would think that was awful if it happened to me. I think definitely have a chat - can't he go out with his mate Sundays or when you get home on Saturday? His daughter I'm sure would really appreciate the time with her daddy as well.
You should be allowed to get out and do at least 1 day a week's work, especially if it's something you have been looking forward to - and if you want to!
2007-06-13 09:06:47
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answered by JoJi 4
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Remind him that you look after her six days a week while he works. he can do the buddy thing on Sundays. Or tell him youll just get a babysitter while you work, and he can pay her. I would just say 'you can spend Saturdays with your daughter as part of the family, or as a single man with visitation rights, its up to you' But Im a meanie.
2007-06-13 09:01:10
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answered by jeanimus 7
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Find a sitter or a relative to watch you daughter. Your husband is also a parent, and should take responsibility, however, he also doesn't sound like he gets a lot of time to himself and is the main bread winner, so he deserves to enjoy JUST as much as you do...Neither one of you should feel guilty about wanting to do your own thing on Saturday's, and your kid might also enjoy time away from ya'll, around other kids or (a spoiling) relative.
2007-06-13 09:06:23
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answered by ndngrlz 4
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It sounds like there are other issues that you have that you are not telling us, yes, a husband that does not want to spend just one day a week with his child is not right!
Has he really accepted the fact that he is a father?
Put your foot down, he can always go out with his mates another time, but family comes first, and let him know that, it is only one day a week, so it will not kill him to spend time with his child.
When a man does not want to spend time with his child and rather go out with his mates there are problems he has that he is not telling you!
Friends come and go, but family is forever!
2007-06-13 09:05:59
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answered by carriegreen13 6
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Too bad your daughter is missing quality time with her own father. How old is this daughter?? You could have him go out with his friends one week and watch her the next.. or go for your dreams and make something of yourself and your daughter and leave him, in this way he will have all the free quality time to spend with his mate.
2007-06-13 09:14:20
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answered by Anonymous
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Tell him that you ARE going to take that job. It's only one day a week and this is something you've always dreamed of doing and as your husband he needs to not only support you but be a father to his child. Men put their foot down all the time and you know what? You can put your foot down too.
2007-06-13 09:00:27
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answered by Phaylynn 5
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