She says she needs time 2 herself away from us 2 have fun and relax,drink,with her so called f***king "friend"which I don't trust as far as I can throw her..
2007-06-13 08:54:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is not fair to u, and u need to go with her, especially if u have a gut feeling about her friend. something is really wrong with things if she feels the need to get out and away from her family. keep your eyes and ears open, a married woman should not be wanting to do this, unless she is wanting to cheat and meet others.
2007-06-13 12:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fair if you get a night out with the guys. My husband lets me take time by myself. I usually go to dinner or a movie with friends. However, I let him have an evening as well. He might go golfing, or play basketball with the boys, or hit a bar for a couple of drinks. It is only fair if it goes both ways. On top of that you have to make sure you make time for each other. Get a babysitter and do something together.
You can also suggest that she help you get the children ready before she leaves. I usually feed, bathe, and get the children in PJ's before I go. This way all he has to do is read them stories and put them to bed.
2007-06-13 09:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends. How often does she do this? If she needs one night a week to go out and have a good time, then there is nothing wrong with it. You say you don't trust her friend, but it is your wife that you either trust or you don't. Do you get a night out with the guys?
On the other hand, if this goes on several nights a week, then you definantly have a problem.
2007-06-13 09:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Angela W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try getting a sitter and go with her. If she protests then find a marriage counselor for both of you
You need an independent person (counselor) to help both of you. The counselor will either help her understand herself and make the necessary behavior changes or she may prefere to be single again.
Personally I would not trust her friend either. The friend may just be covering for your wife meeting someone else.
2007-06-13 09:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is staying out until 3am then NOTHING good is going on. If her friend has a husband (probably not, not many would tolerate such behavior) I am sure HE would be saying the same thing..."I don't trust her ******friend as far as I can throw her. I would hire a PI. Knowledge is power!
2007-06-13 11:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be like this until YOU put an stop to it. Her priority should be you and the kids. If she wants to have fun, then it must be with all of you involved. She has no respect for herself, you or your kids. In my opinion she is not worth it.....
2007-06-13 09:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Diego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless your allowed to do the same thing then it's wrong. she needs to realize that your a family now. She needs to make a choice hang with her single friend or grow up and take responsibility with her family.
2007-06-13 08:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by abstract_alao 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually me and some of my friends used to do some of these on sunday afternoons (only 10, 11, 13, and 14). used to freak out the wal-mart people especially when I did number 14 in the middle of the store not knowing one was following me and number 10 in the sporting goods. Though some of the others I honestly wouldn't have the guts to do.
2016-05-19 03:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sitter/realtive to watch the kids and go out together
2007-06-13 08:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by To The Point 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You KNOW that it is not fair. You just want us all to agree with you.....
Okay, it is not fair.....Now, you need to talk to her about it....
Or better yet, since it seems she would rather be single, let her. Take the kids and go.
2007-06-13 09:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by bellesnail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋