hes a huge video game fan has to be at work at 8 so he gets up early before work to play and plays first thing at home and plays all night long all the time. what do i do to get him more intrested in other things?i dont mind him playing i just want us to do things and for him to want to spend more time with me than a video game.
2007-06-13 08:47:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him what you told us. "i dont mind him playing i just want us to do things and for him to want to spend more time with me than a video game"
if he wont, he is probably addicted and then i wuld suggest counseling.
2007-06-13 08:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by linda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has the same problem my ex did (notice I said ex). Make an effort to play the video game with him to find out why he likes it so much. Who knows, you might find it interesting too. If you have no interest in playing video games, make an effort to find things the two of you can do together (go for a walk, play board games, play cards, join a gym). If he's not interested in at least compromising his video games, then there is very little chance this relationship will work. You both have to be willing to compromise. If he's refuses to give up the video game, then come to an agreement that he can only spend 1 or 2 hours playing after work. If you try to take the game from his cold turkey, he will just resent you for it! The difference between you and I is that I was not married, but we did have a daughter together. My ex's habits were exactly like your husbands and even worst but since I know it's more difficult to walk away from a marriage (especially over a video game), then compromise on both your parts is the answer to your question. Sit him down, talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel when he's spending more time playing video games rather than spending quality time with you.
2007-06-13 16:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you married a man who's comittment is to video games and not his marriage.
also sounds as if the two of you are quite young and not ready for this responsibility of marriage. You cannot get him to be more interested in other things if he's not ready to be interested in other things.
Before it gets out of hand and it's too late to repair the marriage, you need to learn to talk to your husband and appeal to him on a level as husband and wife.
If it means hiding his video games and demanding your respect throughout this marriage, then go for it. Do not throw the video games away but you must learn your man and how to get next to him to get him to do things that you want him to do. Put your foot down now before it's too late.
2007-06-13 16:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so sweet to tolerate this as long as you have. But, you've got to get some boundaries on this. He could be addicted, but either way, there are other things in life than video games. If he's worth it, he should be open to respectful discussions about rationing this. Sure, men decompress with video games, but too much is too much.
2007-06-13 16:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off don't go in and demand him not to play or try to take his games away. All that causes is arguments Just have him sit with you and tell him how you feel. He'll start paying you more attention if he truly cares bout you. To him he may not think that anything is wrong. So talk to him bout this.
2007-06-13 16:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by mims03 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop sitting around waiting for him to stop playing. Find some friends and go out for drinks or a movie or a concert. If he doesn't care what you do and shows no interest, then time to find a man who does. Oh, divorce him first.
2007-06-13 15:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this also, and ya know what i did? i played games with my man, and for about 3 years, we did it, and eventually we got tired of it and quit. If you tuly love him, show him your interested in what he does, he will pay more attention to you, but don't let it take over your life like a drug, make time for yourself still
2007-06-13 16:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by sxyblond69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and let him know that you want to spend more time together away from the games. He may think it is no big deal if you haven't talked about it with him before.
2007-06-13 16:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's more than a fan, he's addicted. he's acting like a little kid. personally, i'd take the game away and make him go cold turkey
2007-06-13 15:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some nooky
2007-06-13 15:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋