2007-06-13 08:43:51 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Games & Recreation ➔ Video & Online Games
Depends on what you want to have happen.
If he just jumped into Video games and is obssessed, ok maybe you have an issue. But if you married him and he was already like this.. what's your beef?
If it's becoming something that's coming between you.. then I'd suggest you talk with him about it. Especially if your needs aren't being met in the relationship.
But if it's simply a matter of jealousy or that you don't feel he should be playing games so often.. welcome to being married to a guy. We like to blow stuff up and WIN at stuff. And, for some, that's the only way they can get that out of their system.
You have a couple options.. These are all based on the assumption that you've talked to him first about this.
1. See if you can adjust the play time to certain hours (when you have other things to do or don't want constant attention)
2. Suggest maybe taking the system out of the relationship for awhile and see how things go
3. Become imprudently demanding and get rid of it when he's not around.. be prepared for the fall out on this one. But if he's truly addicted it might be the intervention he needs.
4. Nothing and love the man you married because he's who he is.. let him know it's a problem and let him make the adjustments on his own.
Up to you.. hope it works out.
2007-06-13 08:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Scallawag 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The answer should depend on what he is getting out of the Video game itself. This usually depends on the type of video game and how long he plays for.
If he's really into an action packed, single player game he's probably getting some satisfaction from the excitement and feeling of accomplishment. This is probably one of the toughest types to overcome since it's very difficult to replace this. I'd suggest you not try to replace it entirely but try to get him to explain what it is he's doing in the game while you watch. When he hits a break (savepoint or end of a level) congratulate him and ask to spend some time with him. This helps to reaffirm his sense of accomplishment and would be a natural breaking point in the game.
If it's more of an online game then the problem may be a sense of wanting and needing to help others. Try to set expectations before a long gaming session would occur. This helps, in some cases, to help the player realize that with only half an hour to go he can't start a Molten Core raid or other large scale adventure. If he feels that his guild-mates or friends cant do without him then you might want to remind him that you need him too. Be gentle with this as this suggestion can land you in a load of trouble if it comes off as argumentative.
All in all I'd say that clear communication about what you'd like to see out of the marriage and each others company is necessary. Joining him in a game now and then isn't a bad idea if you'd enjoy the game and his company, but no amount of in game time will make up for the quality time your relationship deserves.
2007-06-13 09:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by echanidrgn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on why he is playing the game. Alot of people play video games to escape reality. If he has always played them and is playing them alot more often now then something is wrong, and he is trying to escape it by playing alot. If he is new to games then yes, he will play alot. And that will soon die down.
2007-06-15 02:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by John F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't automatically assume he's more interested in the video games then you. It's something that people get VERY into and don't realize how much time they spend doing it or what they are neglecting in the process...have you spoken to him about it?
2007-06-13 08:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Poe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start going to the gym. Sooner or later he will notice all the time you are spending away from him and venture to find out where you've gone and who you're with. If he doesn't get interested in spending time with you then he's not worth the bother, and thanks to all the time you've spent at the gym someone else surely will! Hope everything resolves itself.
2007-06-13 08:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by Alien Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one i would tease him...get him all riled up and then leave him hanging ...he wont be able to forget you for a few days. or if you have children, find a babyitter and take him out and do soming you wouldnt usually do, something dirty, or risky. any situation can be turned into a sexual situation...and he's a man i dont see why he would have a problem paying attention to you if you're looking for sex.
now if you mean you need him for emotional support....well i dont know what to tell you. turn on the tears and then if he asks whats wrong...tell him. dont hide the fact that you're upset or even why you're upset
2007-06-13 08:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Play video games with him...
Go buy a Wii, plus he'll think your the best wife ever.
2007-06-13 08:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by scoobaSteve 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Convince the jackasses on Yahoo Answers of the PROVEN fact that the average gamer is in his mid 30's, tell them to stop pretending they don't suck at life. After that, try playing with him, you might find it's fun. Last resort, just tell him to spend more time with you.
2007-06-13 08:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Edge 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Talk to him about it. Keep it civil, and let him know how much it bothers you. It's important for people to have their time alone, but not if it is all-consuming. Suggest things that you could do together that you both enjoy.
2007-06-13 08:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by sverthfreyr 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well it depends on what kind of system it is...(j.k.) tell him to stop
playing the frickin game and tell him to start paying more attention to things around him like you. if he doesn't then start messin' around with him, ask him if he would like to go to dinner. and dress in a really hot red dress!!! that will get him to think that you want something...
2007-06-13 08:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by Kristen K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋