Have any of you ever been completely insecure, quiet, introverted, unsure of them selves and then all of the sudden seens the light and been able to change and become outgoing, self assured...etc? Or is this something I have to battle my whole life?
2007-06-13 07:53:10 · 8 answers · asked by fedup 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's a learning process that you have to go through your life. One day you will realize, i'm fed up of this kind of life, i'm fed up of myself. I need to change. I laid down things that I don't like about myself including the comments of my family and friends. I was the quiet person ever and the most insecure one.
You need to love yourself first. Change things in you that you can change for the better. Keep a positive attitude and learn how to be happy in just simple things in life.
Always find a humor in a situation, don't be too serious about everything. As you feed your body, feed your mind and your spirit. You can do it, you can win this! Best of luck!
2007-06-13 10:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are.
Rather than concentrating on changing that, or seeing that as somehow unacceptable, you need to instead concentrate on developing any skills that are difficult for you as a shy person, and are limiting your life. I am pretty much a hermit. I choose not to have much social contact at all, and I have very few friends (but they are all real friends!). But I have managed people well, even been the lead speaker or presenter in 2 educational videos. I have no trouble negotiating in business, or in my personal life... But I just do not feed off the energy of other people. I find social interaction an unpleasant burden. That is OK. There is no minimum legal requirement for shallow meaningless interaction.
Believe it or not, inside people where you cannot see, most people are pretty insecure. Even outgoing people are pretty insecure. It helps some to remember that the most important and interesting person in everyones' life is themselves. Believe me, nobody cares enough about most of the things that cause you insecurity to notice those things *at all*. If you find you must interact, and you are feeling self-conscious, just make sure the conversation is all about *them* and no one will find your socks to be out of style ;)
Some people feed of group and/or public energy, other people are drained by it. Do what feeds *you*, but learn to do public speaking or debate, so that if you need those skills, they are available for your use. We are who we are, but we do not have to be limited by that. Even walking the high wire gets easier with practice - but you still don't have to like it.
2007-06-13 15:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was insecure for 31 years. I am 32 now. For the last 31 years of my life I was so quiet and did not like to share my life and a year ago, a friend of mine told me that I should be proud of all the things I've accomplished. I had never heard of anybody said it to me. He also asked me if I had one thing I would like to share to him that I have been keeping to myself. I told him that I am very "insecure" and have struggle to change it. I want to be outgoing and be able to communicate with just anybody. Just by telling him this deep secret of mine helped me become outgoing and be able to say anything I want and don't feel bad about it when I don't make sense sometimes. Letting it out I guess helped.
You might need to try it. It worked for me.
2007-06-13 17:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Friv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is stopping you from being outgoing, self assured? NO one but YOU. Its the ideas you have created in your head about who YOU are. Figure out why you think the way you do.... laugh about it..cause it is really funny when we think about what we have created in our heads. I used to be that way... I was introduced to and education that taught me..."why I think the way I do"... once someone realizes why ... it can open a whole new world... It changed my life. If you are really serious about wanting to find out why.... go to landmarkeducation.com on the web..and check it out..it will change your life!!!
2007-06-13 15:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by jh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say it is a gradual process and not an enlightenment type experience. It is not a bad thing to be introverted, it means that we process information differently and we need to disengage to process the day's information.
2007-06-13 15:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick the Carpathian, CaFO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't happen that suddenly i just noticed i was changing and accepted it and began to change myself actively but it's a slow process and i don't think I'm there yet. Don't be so quick to change though sometimes i miss my old-self sounds weird but it's true
2007-06-13 15:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by FKTS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fed, you can defeat the imprisonment. You have to decide for yourself that you are simply NOT going to be THAT was any longer. You have to make a plan for yourself, to lead you to where you ideally want to be, within reason, and realistically thought out. You CAN do it IF you WANT to, that motivation has to come from within yourself. You will hear it over and over, but it is true.
2007-06-13 15:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yeah, that happened to me. Now I'm not 'battling' anything.
2007-06-13 22:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋