Shouldn't my the rules of my home follow my child wherever he goes?

Question

The reason I'm asking is his grandmother lets him do whatever he wants to and it's starting to make me really angry. Like playing games he shouldn't and just letting him run wild!!!! I have said something before but, it's not stopping!!! What should I do?

The "games" are the rated M for Mature games like Grand Theft Auto!!

Answer 1

for the most part your rules should be followed. but with every house comes different rules. but then, no matter who is watching your child, if they know you won't like what the kids are doing, they should not allow them to do it! Yes Grandparents are here to spoil the grand-kids, but there comes a point where it is just going to far. they should not just let the kids do whatever they want. No matter what or where there always has to be some sort of rules and discipline.

maybe you should talk to her and let her know how you feel about this, and if she is going to continue to let him do whatever he wants, then you might have to limit his time with her until she understands and doesn't let him run wild! Some think that's mean, but sometimes it the best and only way!

Answer 2

My mum's always said "As long as you live in my house you will follow my rules wherever you go. Once you can pay the rent and pay for your own food and games you can play whatever you want and eat anything you want. But you'll be on your own then.". I'd say sit down with the grandmother, speak to her and say "I know you love 'Timmy' but we've got some rules in our household that also should apply here. I don't want Timmy playing M rated games or (any other problems). I hope you understand, we just want a solid base so he isn't confused on the rules." Say it NICELY, you wouldn't believe how much tone matters.

Answer 3

Certain rules need to be respected by his grandparents. (like video game ratings) Other rules...like eating dessert first or staying up an hour past his bedtime, can be bent a little when he is being "spoiled" by grandma.

If I were you I would talk to his grandmother and address the "big" issues. Chances are she might not even realize the games your son wants to play have a rating system!

When I was little my grandma used to let me eat sugar cubes out of her silver sugar bowl. When my mom found out she politely told my grandma that she didn't want me sucking on pure sugar all day because it was bad for my teeth. From that day on, anytime I asked my grandma for a sugar cube she would say "honey, I would let you...but your mommy says no" lol :)

Answer 4

Oh I know how you feel. My mother in law will tell my son that he can come visit [out of state] without even asking me! I don't know why she thinks that is ok but it's not. If you find an answer please let me know. I tell her that he cannot come to visit that he has things to do at home. When he does go with her she lets him stay up really late and totally disrespects my rules. I don't know what to do about it either. The rules should be rules no matter what.

Answer 5

yes, his rules should be respected by his grandmother. If she doesn't listen you may have to not let him go back for a while, she will probably get the picture and agree to stick to the rules. I can see if its a little extra special treatment since its grandma but it can be taken too far!

Answer 6

So long as your child knows that once he gets home, it's back to the rules at hand, it shouldn't be that big of a deal. Grandparents are there to spoil the kid. That's what they do.

Keep in mind, there are probably some things he does that they do discipline him for BUT, it won't always be as much as the parents do.

Answer 7

yes. ur mother is not respecting u, and ur decision making weth ur child, if she cant uphold any sort of discipline for him, then u have to make her understand that he can only visit weth u, or unless ur rules are inforced. because he is in an unstable environment if he does not have soem sort of consistent consequences at least for his actions ♥

Answer 8

Put your foot down. he may get ice cream for dinner or something but if it is against your morals she should repect your parenting

Answer 9

Oh please...

A child who is forced to live with one set of rules will eventually rebel once they realize you and your rules are not around, if out of spite for no other reason. Let the child experience different things, different rules, different experiences instead of forcing them to be the same everywhere they go. They'll respect your rules more if they know there are places where they don't apply.

Answer 10

Your child; your rules.